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Hi guys,
Having sex is a big step in any relationship. But before having sex, your partner may begin asking about your sexual past. Here's how to have the conversation without causing relationship trouble.
1. Find a Comfortable Place
Sexual history can be a tough subject. Find a comfortable, cozy place to hold the discussion and be sure to hold hands or link legs to make the conversation as non-threatening as possible.
2. Agree to be Honest
Strong relationships require total and complete honesty. If you have a real future with your partner, don't start the conversation by lying about your numbers. The truth is bound to come out someday anyway.
3. Decide on Specifics
Some partners only want to know the number of people you slept with, others want every last intimate detail. Before you begin the conversation, clarify how much detail you are comfortable sharing with each other.
4. Divulge the Current State of Your Ex's
If you or your partner is still in touch with an ex-partner, be honest about the current state of affairs. For example, don't withhold the fact that your ex-partner may still have feelings for you and would gladly be intimate with you again given the chance.
5. Don't Be Judgmental
If your number is three and your partner reveals 20 previous partners, don't make any snap judgements. Every person has the right to control and determine his or her own sexual relations and there is no right or wrong when it comes to number of partners.
6. Move Forward Together
After the discussion, agree that the past is the past. Holding your partner forever accountable for decisions made before you met is unfair and will only lead to continuous fighting. Agree to move forward together without harping on the past.
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Having sex is a big step in any relationship. But before having sex, your partner may begin asking about your sexual past. Here's how to have the conversation without causing relationship trouble.
1. Find a Comfortable Place
Sexual history can be a tough subject. Find a comfortable, cozy place to hold the discussion and be sure to hold hands or link legs to make the conversation as non-threatening as possible.
2. Agree to be Honest
Strong relationships require total and complete honesty. If you have a real future with your partner, don't start the conversation by lying about your numbers. The truth is bound to come out someday anyway.
3. Decide on Specifics
Some partners only want to know the number of people you slept with, others want every last intimate detail. Before you begin the conversation, clarify how much detail you are comfortable sharing with each other.
4. Divulge the Current State of Your Ex's
If you or your partner is still in touch with an ex-partner, be honest about the current state of affairs. For example, don't withhold the fact that your ex-partner may still have feelings for you and would gladly be intimate with you again given the chance.
5. Don't Be Judgmental
If your number is three and your partner reveals 20 previous partners, don't make any snap judgements. Every person has the right to control and determine his or her own sexual relations and there is no right or wrong when it comes to number of partners.
6. Move Forward Together
After the discussion, agree that the past is the past. Holding your partner forever accountable for decisions made before you met is unfair and will only lead to continuous fighting. Agree to move forward together without harping on the past.
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