How people can live together without LOVE?

[Anastacia]

I just wanted to say I am not judging anybody. Everyone is different. How can people go to bed together for 10-20-25 years without love? And than when they 50-55 feelings of hate coming.... About wasted life... Kids grown up and gone and nothing but bitterness coming...
I hear so many stories, yeah, i am there because of kids, because we have got too many properties, too much money to break up. We still respect each other... Blah-blah-blah...Women start cheating with yoga instructors, neighbours, he starts hoping to brothels....... And there is millions and millions couples like that..... He is there because he could get laid once a year and get dinner, she is there because he brings pay check.... Often, he knows she is cheating ( or denying it, no my wife not like that....) She knows he is cheating too, but after every time he brings diamond jewelry and she pretends she doesn't see it.... Why people do it to themselves? Why don't break up and be friends and give each other new chance rather than being lonely and miserable in loveless marriage??........

 

[nextplease69]

Fear of the unknown.

Better the devil you know.

Guilt for all the things you could've and should've done differently.

Angst for the memories, wishing that somehow , just somehow.....


Because life is complicated and love found, failing and lost are the most complicated thing of all.

 

[homer]

Some people are reluctant to change. Adapting to change is a big thingy.

 

[svengali]

Late life breakups could well be a financial disaster for both parties as the carve-up of assets often doesn't enable both to enjoy the kind of lifestyle they enjoyed as a couple. For the obscenely wealthy it is easy - just write a cheque and open the door but for wage slaves it is different.

Consider a married couple in their late 50 like two friends of mine. He decided to split with another woman and walked out. The kids were adults so no custody battle but they had super and a big house full of chattels to split. In an agreed settlement she kept the house and paid him out which basically left him with all the cash and her with the house, contents and mortgage. He moved in with the other lady and she will have to work until she is 70 to pay off the house and will probably still not have enough super left to retire decently. After a few years husband and other woman split which left him renting with little prospect at his age of getting a housing loan as his employment is a bit come and go and at present it is mainly go.

No winners from that scenario.

 

[Vivienne]

I think some men like to think of themselves as a " family man"

 

[Claire Carter]

My ex boyfriend lived with his ex partner for 4 years, owned a home together etc, without ever telling her he loved her.... Im still trying to wrap my head around that. Maybe she thought actions spoke louder than words? To his credit, he never cheated.. But I really cant understand how people can "accept" that kind of 'love'??