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How do you stop yourself from Cumming?

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Tania Admin

I was reading a post on another media site where a lady asked,
''Why can't men cum as often as women?'' and
''Why can't they get hard again straight away?''
Her point being that women can be ready again straight away and a lot can have orgasm after orgasm.

And I would like to know too.....

So I pose a few questions:

Is this true for all men?
If so, why can't they?
How do you prolong intercourse/stop yourself from cumming?
Does anyone on here use cockrings or other devices to stay hard and stop cumming?
What mental methods can you use?
Do you always make sure your lady is satisfied? (more than once even)
AND be honest....

Aaaaargh, so many questions.
 

Dallas

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I've never had a problem cumming too quickly, it's always been the opposite. The downside to a lifetime of infrequent sex with regular masturbation just changes the sensation and mindset needed to cum during sex. Cumming too quickly seems like a great problem to have by comparison. However there is a huge upside pardon the pun and that is staying hard for hours and being able to soley focus on the lady being satisfied.
 

XLNC

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Well, I can't speak for all men but it's certainly true for me. As I've grown older, the refractory period -- unlike my penis -- has lengthened somewhat. It takes a while before I can go again so I don't even bother trying to cum more than once in a one hour booking, even if the lady offers it. I much prefer a long, slow build-up to a single grande finale.

As to why, that's how my Creator in His wisdom made men. Can you imagine anything getting done if blokes could have non-stop orgasms? We would still be waiting for the wheel to be invented. And how do you get to a punt without wheels?

I have tried cockrings but with mixed success: just didn't find them reliable enough, quite uncomfortable and they get in the way. As for mental methods, I tried channeling Uri Geller to bend my 'spoon' upwards but that didn't work either. Like Dallas, cumming too soon is usually not a concern for me these days; cumming at all in the allotted time can be a challenge sometimes.

I do strive to satisfy my lovers if they are in the mood to be pleasured -- indeed, ladies first -- but I have a far better strike rate with my tongue than my tired old todger. I do enjoy giving a good licking. In fact, my tongue is probably the most toned muscle in my body. Wanna try, Tania?
:p:wtf:
 

westy

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Lay back and think of England. Oh sorry that's the ladies answer when not interested.
It is interesting getting older and not being able to maintain a rock hard member that can go 3-6 times in a 1-2 hour session. Prolonging takes regular stopping during head or intercourse. So many questions.... Oh yes. I would rather give satisfaction than receive.
This is going to he a long post,however this seems like the time and place to relay a strange story.
One night I was given a Headjob and came very quickly (it had been a while,about a week and I was really horny) we/ she continued and very quickly I came again. This was repeated 7 or 8 times. I can't remember exactly, but I clearly recall that she wanted "double figures". I never really got rock hard between orgasms, however it was intense and she was extremely skilled. I had never experienced this before,and as it wasn't that long ago, since.
I had no chance of controlling anything and didn't wish to. She seemed fascinated (we both were). In some ways I wouldn't mind the experience again as it was almost like a multiple orgasm.
 
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Tania Admin

Well, I can't speak for all men but it's certainly true for me. As I've grown older, the refractory period -- unlike my penis -- has lengthened somewhat. It takes a while before I can go again so I don't even bother trying to cum more than once in a one hour booking, even if the lady offers it. I much prefer a long, slow build-up to a single grande finale.

As to why, that's how my Creator in His wisdom made men. Can you imagine anything getting done if blokes could have non-stop orgasms? We would still be waiting for the wheel to be invented. And how do you get to a punt without wheels?

I have tried cockrings but with mixed success: just didn't find them reliable enough, quite uncomfortable and they get in the way. As for mental methods, I tried channeling Uri Geller to bend my 'spoon' upwards but that didn't work either. Like Dallas, cumming too soon is usually not a concern for me these days; cumming at all in the allotted time can be a challenge sometimes.

I do strive to satisfy my lovers if they are in the mood to be pleasured -- indeed, ladies first -- but I have a far better strike rate with my tongue than my tired old todger. I do enjoy giving a good licking. In fact, my tongue is probably the most toned muscle in my body. Wanna try, Tania?
:p:wtf:
Ha ha. My post is more curiosity. Thanks for the offer but NT is home next weekend and we never have a problem in this department. :)Yet.......
 

Happy2

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Thats the joy of being a little more adventurous Changing of positions before cumming so the senses reset Let a bloke just hump away in missionary or doggie only and you are asking for trouble Or lack there of
 
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I've never used a cock ring, but from my understanding, they are supposed to stop the blood draining back out in order to maintain the erection longer. I imagine that if they do stop an early climax, it'd be because they are cutting off sensation. Doesn't sound like something I'd like, nor would i care to think too much about the long term damage from extended periods of no circulation! :eek:
 
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Tania Admin

I've never used a cock ring, but from my understanding, they are supposed to stop the blood draining back out in order to maintain the erection longer. I imagine that if they do stop an early climax, it'd be because they are cutting off sensation. Doesn't sound like something I'd like, nor would i care to think too much about the long term damage from extended periods of no circulation! :eek:
Not even try babe? Really? We will see about that lol
 

Happy2

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I've never used a cock ring, but from my understanding, they are supposed to stop the blood draining back out in order to maintain the erection longer. I imagine that if they do stop an early climax, it'd be because they are cutting off sensation. Doesn't sound like something I'd like, nor would i care to think too much about the long term damage from extended periods of no circulation! :eek:
You need someone experienced t put them on those rubber rings
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So if the pair of you want to borrow Please PM
 
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Wikipedia said:
Cock rings that are too tight, or worn for too long can be dangerous: this may cause priapism, a medical emergencythat, if not treated promptly, can result in severe and permanent damage, including penile gangrene that can result in the destruction and possibleamputation of the penis.

Yeah, pretty sure...
 

nextplease69

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I can only go again if I force myself to keep going after cumming, don't even let myself go soft, but there's a snowball's chance in hell that I will come twice. Haven't been able to do that since I was a teenager.
So I will generally just focus on the lady and maybe a little mutual pleasure (if it's not a stupid bloody extra) and hold out till 10min left on the clock or so and then try to let it happen after that, sometimes it works and sometimes I walk out without climaxing...
 

XLNC

Whatever happened to FREE love?
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Yes, you should NEVER fall asleep while wearing a cock ring. Otherwise, you could wake up to find your chicken has been choked for the final time. In fact, I think wearing it for 30 minutes max is the usual recommendation. :chicken:
 

chibi

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A bit of arm-chair info from a sex-shop worker who has NO qualifications to give advice, but anyway...:rolleyes:

A simple leather'n'snap cockring at the base of the penis, above the balls, are the best, especially if the ring is small enough that you can only get them on when you're flaccid. They don't work well with a vibrator attached as you go numb, but the restriction of the blood-flow out, creates a much harder and bigger erection. The increased bulbousness means that the orgasm doesn't just remain in the tip, like a quickie-orgasm would, but spreads through the shaft and out to the body more. Suffice to say, it also forces more bodily movement out of you to achieve the said orgasm. Once there, the bloated nature of the erection takes a longer time to go down, and you can usually start getting your feeling back in time for a second, third go before you go back to flaccidity. You can also "pull yourself further through" to give yourself more length. Unlike the metal ones, when you are done they are easy to remove with an un-snap of the button.
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Natee

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Is this true for all men?

Every guy is different. It depends on how I get off. When masturbating, after I cum it takes me around 10 minutes until I can go again. When I cum from sex, or from fleshlight, I am pretty much read to go again in 10 seconds. The recovery time extends after each time. Its not always as simple as that though. I dont know about other guys, but I have sometimes had a dry orgasm. Like, I will cum but nothing comes out. I experience the orgasm but it comes from a different place. I am then ready to go again instantly.

If so, why can't they?

I am assuming a chemical is released and just turns everything off lol. It makes the penis extremely sensitive to touch but not in a good way. I remember once I was getting a hand job and after I came, she kept going but I didn't lose my hard on. I told her to stop and she kept going. I had t push her away. It felt very intrusive and wrong. It was a horrible feeling. I guess it would be like if you no longer hungry and you are forced to eat.

The sexual hunger is gone and we start thinking about stuff like, the universe or why the airbag light in my car wont turn off...


How do you prolong intercourse/stop yourself from cumming?

I think its more psychological than physical. I lost my virginity last year to an escort. Long story short, it took me 7 bookings to be able to cum from sex. After that, I think my brain transitioned from wanting only porn, to actual sex.

I kinda miss it though. Giving it my 100% best for an hour and seeing the WL's enjoying it was a huge turn on. I absolutely loved foreplay as well.

Thats for another thread though lol.

Ive never had a sexual relationship before, so I can only share my experience of being with WL's. I pace my self and enjoy the intimacy. As selfish as it sounds, I just think of my self. I think about what I want from this moment. Just before time is up, I like finishing by going hard and fast.

Sorry not much to go on. I know it would be very different if I ever had a partner.


Does anyone on here use cockrings or other devices to stay hard and stop cumming?

Never used a cock ring. You can stay hard all day with devices but I don't think anything is going to stop you from cumming. Once you reach the event horizon, there is no going back lol. Maybe a pill perhaps? Id love to know.

What mental methods can you use?
Do you always make sure your lady is satisfied? (more than once even)
AND be honest....

Havent had a partner so cant comment as Im sure it would be a completely different ballgame. And trust me. Men probably have more questions for you girls :)
 

Dallas

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when u feel like cumming, take time out and have a cuppa lol :excited:

I like it! Guy says, oooh i'm about to cum... girl says.... righteo lets all have a nice cuppa tea then. I wonder if this is something that working ladies could adopt?.. as an extra of course : )

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homer

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If the member wanna spits the protein load, it spits it. No delaying it. From many years of porn studies, I did see this one guy, who could do two loads...not sure if it's pill assisted. Or camera paused for a long while for him to bring his member back.

I once or twice tried to delay the member from the orgasmic spasm...and on all occasions, member went to sleep...a 15 mins session, went into overtime with extensive CPR...and failure. :(
 

punter.dave

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When I was younger , going twice without going soft was relatively easy with the right partner though these days I'll take a few minutes to get going again particularly when wearing a condom.

Cumming too quick has never been a big issue for me , I'm more about the partner getting off and I change things up a bit during the session which seems to keep me going for a decent enough time.

That said though there can be something amazing about a nice , hard and spontaneous quickie against a wall , in the shower or over a counter provided you both get off lol

As for ensuring my partner gets off at least once, in my personal life I generally try and ensure it before any prolonged intercourse so I know she gets off regardless I'm also not really a vanilla sex kind of person so the lead up can be fairly long and fun for both of us. With WLs though it all depends on the lady and the session type and session length. If we can both get off .. Fantastic and I'll do all I can to ensure this happens including booking a longer session to give it every opportunity , but I'll be honest and say that I'm my priority when punting.

I know that may not be a popular viewpoint for some of the WLs here or some of the punters and I assure you I treat every woman I see like the queen she is if I enjoy her company but the reality is I'm there and paying for both of us to hopefully have a great time and to get myself off
 

majorjohn

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How do I prolong intercourse and stop orgasms?

Easy. I'm on antidepressants. I can go for hours becuase of these pills. Orgasming however is next to impossible hahaha. This isn't suitable for everyone, however I find it hilariously ironic when with a W/L and usually explain the problem for my own ego's sake.
 

Zane_1

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This is a diversion from the OP, sorry, have a comment though

With WLs though it all depends on the lady and the session type and session length. If we can both get off .. Fantastic and I'll do all I can to ensure this happens including booking a longer session to give it every opportunity ,

Mmm, I'm not sure about this. If you want a longer session because you enjoy it yourself then thats fine of course and I'll often do the same. But, don't do it for the WL's benefit. The reason isn't mean spirited (imho).

I have several mates who are punters and they tend to think the way I used to think, which is not dissimilar to the above. A nice long session is enjoyable for -you- but also for the WL - now that I have several close friends who are WL's and have the 'inside scoop' to some degree, I don't believe this is the reality.

If the girl is busy, she'll prefer the 30 minute bookings to those of an hour or more. The reason isn't that surprising really when you think about it. In PER at the moment a half hour goes for what .. about $120-150, an hour might be $170-200. So, two 30 minute bookings is going to be more lucrative than a single 1 hour. Outcalls are usually viewed in the same way. A busy lady won't be all that interested in say a 1 hour outcall as it takes something like an hours travel back and forth for the 1 hour paid booking, thus 2 hours total ... for $200 (and say $50 additional for the driver).

But more than this, and more important from the WL's perspective, they need to look after their bodies. 6x 1 hour bookings in a day resulting in 45 minutes of hard pounding is just too much and they'll get sore and unhappy, no matter how much lube is involved.

The look-you-in-the-eye honest to god truth from a lot of WL's is that they prefer the intercourse bit to last 10-15 minutes tops if at all possible.

but I'll be honest and say that I'm my priority when punting.

I know that may not be a popular viewpoint for some of the WLs here or some of the punters

Don't beat yourself up. Its what the girls honestly prefer too.

and I assure you I treat every woman I see like the queen she is if I enjoy her company but the reality is I'm there and paying for both of us to hopefully have a great time and to get myself off

...and this is important. No reason ever to be disrespectful and a positive and thoughtful attitude will quickly see you added to the 'preferred clients' list :)
 
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