How do I make her cum?

[Zeus]

OK - so here is the story.
I have recently hooked up with this absolutely gorgeous girl and we have been having a lot of fun together.
During our many chats, she told me that it is very rare for her to cum during sex. She added that almost always, she needed to use a vibe during sex if she was going to cum.

Of course - being a red blooded male, I accepted the challenge to make her come without the use of any electronic gadgets.

So far I have failed dismally.

I have really tried just about everything. First time I started with a slow sensuous massage and moved onto some gentle sex. FAIL
Second time we tried a lot of oral. FAIL.
Today we tried rougher sex and some anal (which she loved) but still no success in getting her to cum.

Please help.

Any (genuine) comments and suggestions would be most welcome.

 

[Happy2]

Loving caring and spontaneity
I'm sure the two of you will get there Zeus

My wife was similar for a while after chemo it was a purely spontaneous tryst one day and that was enough for her that day
No time to worry about will I come maybe?

 

[XLNC]

Good to see you back, Zeus, albeit under unfortunate circumstances.

Send her my way and I'll see what I can do.

H2 is probably onto something though. The brain is the primary sex organ in many ways so getting past that is more than half the challenge. Perhaps discuss what sort of sexual fantasy / porn / roleplay most turns her on and give that a go. Once you get inside her head, you should have a better chance of making her cum when you're inside her pussy.

 

[frank mueller]

My current partner likes the cow girl position, she reckons it helps her to stimulate her G spot. I suppose we are all different. As long as you both have fun, reaching orgasm is not necessarily the end game.

 

[magrov]

The first thing I would do is stop trying. The pressure to cum may not be helping. Just have fun and if it happens then great.

Also, alcohol is a great relaxer. Not too much but just enough to lower inhibition.

Lastly is just a sad fact that some women will always struggle.

 

[Zeus]

Good to see you back, Zeus, albeit under unfortunate circumstances.

Send her my way and I'll see what I can do.

H2 is probably onto something though. The brain is the primary sex organ in many ways so getting past that is more than half the challenge. Perhaps discuss what sort of sexual fantasy / porn / roleplay most turns her on and give that a go. Once you get inside her head, you should have a better chance of making her cum when you're inside her pussy.

Your XLNC - thank you for your advice and thank you for your kind offer to "sort out" the issues my lady friend has. I will be sending her over to you shortly.

It's always good to know that there are good people out there - such as yourself, who are willing to go that extra mile in order to help others.

 

[homer]

The sexual nirvana, known as cuming or cum or orgasm, the Big O..O whatever... is somewhat a phenomena for some. I guess you need to focus on the journey rather than the O...mindgasm is a good trigger for the O-gasm.
Words, imagery...fine beautiful lass reaching their destiny O...is a fine way to get you on your journey. Make love to her mind...that said, I've never seen a lady having an O.

 

[Phoebe]

Introduce her to me Easy done buddy easy done. The Power of Seduction... slow interplay and thinking of her body as a temple, Its easy dude.

 

[Miss Monique]

Thinking out loud here if a women is so used to toys to enabler her to orgasm its a bit like some men can only come by their own hand.

What about your choose a sex position where you can stimulate her clit while your fucking.
Or go down on her a good licking and finger at the same time another suggestion.
Passionate kissing head to toe, caressing followed by sex.
Us women body is very different to men's and sometimes past abuse, religious upbringing etc can stop a women from letting go and enjoying herself

Try not to think about it to much or it will become a chore just enjoy each other

 

[Phoebe]

Well said Monique. 10/10

 

[Phoebe]

I was with my EX for 10 years, We never used toys, or anything we just used our bodies to turn each other on, and the best erotic device is the sexual part of the brain, and open sexual conversation, asking your partner etc etc... trying new things, go up to her while she is say doing something else and kiss her stroke her etc etc, then glide your hands between her thighs and just cares her, etc etc, even if she doesn't cum the 1st time just keep on going, she will learn to relax and trust you.

 

[Zeus]

Introduce her to me Easy done buddy easy done. The Power of Seduction... slow interplay and thinking of her body as a temple, Its easy dude.

Hey phoebe - you might be onto something here. I know that she has had quite a few relationships with other women. So maybe I will send her across to you and you can unlock the secrets for me

 

[Phoebe]

Hey phoebe - you might be onto something here. I know that she has had quite a few relationships with other women. So maybe I will send her across to you and you can unlock the secrets for me

Its not rocket science..... and it starts long before the bedroom.... You know men that do housework get more sex than married men that dont...

 

[Happy2]

Its not rocket science..... and it starts long before the bedroom.... You know men that do housework get more sex than married men that dont...

Not true
I do all my own house work
Nuffinck nada zip

 

[Phoebe]

Not true
I do all my own house work
Nuffinck nada zip

Walk outside and point your ears west ward towards somewhere more cultured say Europe there is an orchestra playing just for you...... Just for you!

 

[Happy2]

Walk outside and point your ears west ward towards somewhere more cultured say Europe there is an orchestra playing just for you...... Just for you!

West ? South Africa?

 

[Phoebe]

West as in Europe west.... it may be a more North North West but its still west.........