how do i ask my girl...

[darkdreadz]

...to give me a proper head job?

I'm 27, she's 37. We have heaps of sex, but she never properly goes down on me... if I'm lucky she'll stay down there a minute, then just jump on... I really miss getting good head, which is why I'm considering seeing escorts for the first time in my life...

PS we've been together 6 months...

 

[gazzman]

Turn it round. At 37 shes gotta had a few partners probbly a lot if her skills are average. Ask her about the best fucks she's ever had. If shes shy tell her your both adults, and whatever happened in the past for both of youse is history. its cool. You want to be the best shes ever had but you need some pointers. Every girl's different, just like every guy's diffrent (hint hint) What did they do. Massage, Did he go down on her. Licking. How did he start. Figering. Gspot. Favorite positions. What does she like. Deep Fast shallpw WHat? Does she like a finger up the bum or ther real thing!!!!! Make her wishes come true. If she's any kind of girlfriend she'll do the same for you. If not move on

 

[Tania Admin]

In my opinion I would just straight up say to her "I really love when you go down on me, and would love it if you do it for longer and more often", honesty is the best policy,,maybe you can work out a trade off..But there is a possibilty she may of had a bad experience doing this, or she may have a fear of you cumming in her mouth,,,,talk about it....Personally I love going down on a guy, I find it a huge turn on.

 

[Farm Boy]

You could do worse, don't f*** up what you got.

 

[viper]

Be honest you would like some more below the waist time. If you say nothing it is your fault for not being satisfied because you have said nothing to indicate otherwise.

 

[Tannerone]

Turn it round. At 37 shes gotta had a few partners probbly a lot if her skills are average. Ask her about the best fucks she's ever had. If shes shy tell her your both adults, and whatever happened in the past for both of youse is history. its cool. You want to be the best shes ever had but you need some pointers. Every girl's different, just like every guy's diffrent (hint hint) What did they do. Massage, Did he go down on her. Licking. How did he start. Figering. Gspot. Favorite positions. What does she like. Deep Fast shallpw WHat? Does she like a finger up the bum or ther real thing!!!!! Make her wishes come true. If she's any kind of girlfriend she'll do the same for you. If not move on

I think this is very bad advice. It is more likely to result in a split-up than an improvement.

Try gently discussng the matter with her - is there anything she would like that you are not doing for her etc.

 

[mydnytgoddess]

If you find it really hard to speak to your gf about this, why not drop little hints like the whole " I have a friend who is not happy as he never gets blow jobs... why do you think that would be?" Hypothetical's can take away alot of stress with still getting to the point... Women are finicky and difficult but it can be easily solved....

One query though Do you go down on her? Her attitude may be that if I'm not getting it neither honey are you!!

 

[Saige]

Have you tried talking...like dirty talk, GENTLY pulling her head down..saying how much u luv it, u miss her lips around your cock. Then as she is doing it if she does something right..moan appropriately and move your body a little to let her know she is right on it.. guidance is always good..if she does it "not pleasingly" just say "put it all in...I feels so good" I am sure you will come up with the appropriate words for your relationship and her.

I do understand however except my case was role reversal I had this FB he gave the best head, magic fingers but as soon as he put his cock in he wld blow...i was just aching to bent over and fucked hard....shame!!! I could not have sustained (though we did not have those feelings for each other...just FB)a relationship sexually with being unsatisfied like that...BUT, I think your problem is very easily fixable!

 

[Saige]

For god's sake please dont blurt it out...well your head sucks......OUCH!!!! ps are you sure its not problem with you, dont trake wrong way but maybe smelly down in the pubic region, it has benn hot summer (shit was that half a save!!!!) or uncircumcised, many girls dislike giving head to uncircum cocks..overly bushy....time to get the weed wacker out???

 

[asianguy77]

Did u take a shower, or u didnt just come back from the gym. Otherwise she would take a whiff, and then b straight back up. If its about, the length of time, just tell het how much u enjoy gettin head and hope it can go on longer. If its bout technique, watch some porn together and hopefully it plants a few ideas in her head

 

[Sensual ~ Vanessa]

I think it comes down to...does she enjoy it, if not, why not ? and how to
trigger the desire for her to suck cock.
How turned on is she ? this is a factor...if she's horny and hot for it, she's likely to want to give head (as part
of your sexual activities as a whole, not singling out any one particular activity)

Communication does matter but its how you say it and when.
In the heat of the moment, will ruin the moment
and the way you address the issue - delivery, is critical

 

[TheCock]

For god's sake please dont blurt it out...well your head sucks......OUCH!!!! ps are you sure its not problem with you, dont trake wrong way but maybe smelly down in the pubic region, it has benn hot summer (shit was that half a save!!!!) or uncircumcised, many girls dislike giving head to uncircum cocks..overly bushy....time to get the weed wacker out???

Can't you just pull the skin back?

 

[darkdreadz]

Thanks for all the replied guys/girls... I used to go down on her, often, but have stopped since she doesn't reciprocate... shame because I find it a big turn on...

I'm pretty clean, but I guess I could do with a trim...

She's only had a few sexual partners, but for long periods, the total opposite to me...

Its technique as well as timing, she can't even give a good hand job, so I'm gonna see if she will watch some porn with me, she should be up for it, as we have passionate sex most of the time, just not what I want... she

Its tech ique as we

 

[Saige]

I think it comes down to...does she enjoy it, if not, why not ? and how to
trigger the desire for her to suck cock.
How turned on is she ? this is a factor...if she's horny and hot for it, she's likely to want to give head (as part
of your sexual activities as a whole, not singling out any one particular activity)

Communication does matter but its how you say it and when.
In the heat of the moment, will ruin the moment
and the way you address the issue - delivery, is critical

Perfectly said Vanessa xx...I agree with the enjoyment..she needs to re-enjoy sucking your cock...you can definately tell a girl who really enjoys it as opposed to someone who is not that into it.

 

[Farm Boy]

"she can't even give a good hand job,"

Now this is something that you can demonstrate

 

[Saige]

I thin k there is one person who can answer this truly...

Site is broken, so taken down.

Miss Lovelace xxx

 

[WRXXXR]

"I'm only 4" away from happiness". Terrible acting but arguably the most classic line in porn!

 

[steve14]

Lets face it a lot of women do not like giving head ... what you need to do is assess your needs , if you can live with the situation
all well and good...if not you need to either move on if discussion does not rectify the situation . If she does not want to give head
(and lets face it at 37yo I don't think she will change) you could ask her if she would be Ok with you seeking the services of a professional for this purpose , but I doubt whether she would be receptive and could be a deal breaker.
yes , I am speaking form my experience , my sex life with my wife was similar up until 10years ago when everything stopped totally.

 

[The One]

Lets face it a lot of women do not like giving head ... what you need to do is assess your needs , if you can live with the situation
all well and good...if not you need to either move on if discussion does not rectify the situation . If she does not want to give head
(and lets face it at 37yo I don't think she will change) you could ask her if she would be Ok with you seeking the services of a professional for this purpose , but I doubt whether she would be receptive and could be a deal breaker.
yes , I am speaking form my experience , my sex life with my wife was similar up until 10years ago when everything stopped totally.

I don't think you can say, just because she is 37 that she won't change. It might be a little more difficult but it depends on the person and how they communicate as a couple.
As for asking her if you could see a professional; well I think that might just drive the relationship into a tree..

 

[Buzz]

28 years married and she has never given oral. You guys have got nothing to complain about lol
Shes not comfortable me giving her oral either

 

[darkdreadz]

Thanks again for all the input, it went quite well,

When we were in the shower last night I just said that I love it when she touches me, and to do it more often, then when we got to bed she went straight down on me... I guess it just came down to letting her know what I like... I'm just not used to relationships/having sex exclusively with the same person...

Cheers all

 

[longlasting]

It also could be that you showered together, I LOVE to give a woman oral, as long as she's clean and not too bushy, I especially love doing it after we've showered together.

I always find that I get a better BJ after I've given oral, actually the girl I was with last night came back to give me another BJ after I gave her oral, never realised before that she would enjoy it as she never seemed comfortable with me being below her waist.

Just my 2c worth.

 

[Tania Admin]

I am happy that things have improved for you,,that's great news

 

[JasRob]

I've had same problem with my girl before..When I'm so into it that's the time she goes up and I hate the feeling when she stops it quickly. I told her straight to the point and then that's it she goes down so well and give me best head jobs ever! so i think its better to be so honest and open to her so she'd know....

 

[Claire]

honesty is the best policy.

Though some girls reallly do not like this part of foreplay so tread lightly