hi will you break up from a partner if sex was bad.

[viking32]

just a thought....will you break up from a partner,,if he or she is dull in bed,,..i have been there ..not much fun ..just waiting to see if it will change,,,and after a bit there is no disire to go to bed...its sad,,has any one else been there..???

 

[SubNymphet]

No i wouldnt break up with them! i would talk to them and try to convince them to play some games in the bedroom. on of my bfs was really boring in bed so i got the karma sutra game and made him play it... introduced him to some new ideas and things just got better from there... too good unfortunatly, he then found other people to explore with! hahaha

 

[Cavesquig]

No I wouldn't break up,there is more to a relationship than sex. Plus, sex is like pizza....even bad sex is not really all that bad.

Though I do recall having a girlfriend where the best sex we had was after we broke up

 

[viking32]

thank you for the responce,,,,,i know what sub is saying,,,i am also a person to try to solve things by all means....just some people just dont gett it,,,the game thing is a good idear....,,,
if you are willing to listen you can learn,,also have to be carefull how to bring it up...as there is no reasun to hurt some ones feelings....cavi.....lol..bad sex is better then none,,well again i cant arguee....a friend off mine meet some girls many years ago,,,we where young and did not care to much,,,so we where sitting there and said that wanking is better then the sex they give us,,it was a joke,,,thought they might say come on boys now we will show yours....they just got up and walked away,,,lol...life is here to learn us some things,,,
what did we learn that day,,,???that they did not think it was funny ,,,but we still laugh about it,,to this day..

 

[svengali]

An imbalance of libidos or a complete lack of interest from one partner can certainly put a strain on a relationship but breaking up over it seems a bit drastic.

I believe a little heart to heart talk, maybe more than once if necessary should be the first step. After all "bad sex" is rarely one person's fault - it does take two to tango.

 

[corneus]

Reckon I would

Bad sex? Hmmmm.
If the problem is only that one person is a bit "dull", that can be recitified with talking and some gentle teaching. But I think most of the time it is a case of one wanting it more often than the other, so when that is really mis-matched there is not much you can do.
It might sound shallow to some, but sex really is only one of quite a few things that you are much better off being compatible with to make a relationship work well. Just talking about it doesn't always work.
Just as I wouldn't stay with someone who held strong religious beliefs (I think they're delusional...) or who was lazy, or who didn't care about their appearance, I wouldn't be happy with someone who didn't like an adventurous, frequent sex life!

 

[TemptMe]

Well lets be honest in a lot of cases sex is one of the first "get togethers" for many people and if that turns out to be a disaster you generally don't go back for seconds or thirds. I guess it all depends on the needs of the individual - if sex is up there as a priority then compatibility is important. How long can one cope with 'bad sex'? There is only so much talking and teaching that can go on - if they haven't got the drive you can't teach that!O0

 

[viking32]

thanks again for the replies,,,,and some very good valued points there,,,offcause there is a lot more to a partnership then sex,,,i have always said if you cant have a nice time and a good chat with your partner and she or he has some realy nice traits and personality..it will never work out,,as you spend more time chatting and looking at each othere then being in bed and having sex..i guess in my case ...i got together with a lady ..some times after my marrige break up..and she was a nice person but had many simularities to my ex,,regards the sex part,,like once a week well every 14 days if i was lucky,,and that was how she made me feel,,and then it did not take that long ..and she complained,,i tryid to explain what was needed ..but to now point,,hence a break up..as been said here,,if no comunication no go..but regards sex just have to be so more tact full when it comes to sort it out,,so no one getts hurt,,i am kind off still friends with her and she has had a fair few boyfriends since ,,and she cant understand why they dont stay,,its sad,,very much for her,,as a friend now i have made a point,,but she wont hear off it,,i have come to think she just have had a real bad experience with it long time ago,,,not her fault,,but to be abel to move on has to find a way to deal with it,,
..i guess in here there is a message do not do things to othere with out consent ..as i feel in my heart she has had a real bad experince ..but she wont talk about it,,i feel she is very lost,,

 

[Spunkymunky]

I stayed with my ex for 5yrs and the sex was absolutely awful. But i loved him. Now i get awesome sex on a fairly regular basis so im much more satisfied and i find my sex drive is A LOT higher than it was before

 

[Bratboy]

Simple answer: yes.