Head jobs....... Ho-Hum

[big_dave86]

My gf deep down i think doesn't like giving me head. I constantly go down on her and finger her during foreplay but it's such an effort to get her down there, is there anything i can do to make this so called "unbareble" experience, bareable?

 

[Persephone]

I think you should ask her, that way you'll know exactly what the problem is and how you may be able to solve it. There are several reasons I can think of as to why your girlfriend may not like it...

She may simply have a really sensitive gag reflex or not enjoy the feeling of something long and thick down her throat blocking her airway. Not sure how many of you men are aware of it - but it can be very difficult to breathe while giving BJ, esp if deep throating. Using more licking and hand/stroking action, only giving a shallow BJ but using the hands to work the shaft and balls...

She may have had negative experiences with BJ in the past, perhaps being forced to do them, having her head held down until she chokes, etc - in that case make sure she knows that she has complete control and more importantly give her complete control, don't push her down, no hand on the head or holding/pulling hair...

Do you give her oral, purely to make sure she'll return the favour or because you actually enjoy it? If she feels that you're only going down on her so that she'll suck your cock - then that just perpetuates her dislike of the act...

It could be the taste or texture. Are you trimmed, shaved or waxed? If not, try it. Make sure you're clean, using a non-scented soap. I've also found from experience that guys who smoke and/or drink lots of beer and/or eat lots of junk food taste really bad! Try pineapple juice or cinnamon - it really does make a difference, even just lots of fresh fruit.

You could try to make it more interesting with whipped cream, chocolate, etc. Not just on your cock, but to make it more fun everywhere! I think one of the tricky things is that if you push it too hard, she may end up disliking it more. Women - we're tricky creatures sometimes...

Hope that helps, but I think the best thing is to ask her. And if the sex is great anyway, is it important?

xxx

 

[scarface]

Back sak and krakka

Yeah being a guy i have in the past had the same prob's. Being brought up and thinking and being a macho kinda dude i thought that 's what women want. Hairy balls sweaty cock, beer breath yellow teeth.Why on earth would a chick want to be with someone like that. I would hate to be with a women with a hairy vagina with last nights discharge permeating through .Wholesome clean must be the go.
Most women prefer shaved cock and balls scrubbed squ
eaky clean Anus washed throughly (particular after a night of grog us blokes burb and fart in our sleep} She does not want to go down on you and smell that filthy shitty smell.Give the back a trim and the chest if you are particulary hairy.
Us dudes have to mend our ways.
So to be truthful in the last few years the old fella and ball bag have had to be shaved clean if not i don't feel right.
So Peresephone i agree with you.

 

[Persephone]

Yes, it's amazing how many guys ask, actually expect, that I'll be clean shaven and yet don't return the favour. Trust me fella's if you're too hairy there will be no ball licking or sucking and no deep throating. Who wants hair in their teeth or up their nose? You don't have to shave, but at least trim! And of course, be clean!

That being said, there are guys who like the bush, so I guess there are chicks out there that do too. As I said before - ask your girlfriend what the problem is...

xxx

 

[aussie_single34]

like em
want em
don't get enough of em

But yes there is probably a reason..... you just need to find out what it is and see what you can do to help her to help you

 

[waxenboy]

Yes, it's amazing how many guys ask, actually expect, that I'll be clean shaven and yet don't return the favour. Trust me fella's if you're too hairy there will be no ball licking or sucking and no deep throating. Who wants hair in their teeth or up their nose? You don't have to shave, but at least trim! And of course, be clean!

That being said, there are guys who like the bush, so I guess there are chicks out there that do too. As I said before - ask your girlfriend what the problem is...

xxx

I agree comunicate then you both know what you like and dislike peresephone is right talk to eachother.

 

[JohnD]

There is always the chance that she just might not be into giving them , my partener is on of those who just hates even the thought of giving head. She says its not the taste or the feel but the thought as to what we do with our dicks at other times of the day. I say if she dosen't like just learn to live with it , or with her consent try & get it else where.

 

[Persephone]

There is always the chance that she just might not be into giving them , my partener is on of those who just hates even the thought of giving head. She says its not the taste or the feel but the thought as to what we do with our dicks at other times of the day. I say if she dosen't like just learn to live with it , or with her consent try & get it else where.

Interesting comment about your girlfriend, JohnD. If I'm not prepared to put it in my mouth - there's no way it's going in my pussy!

xxx

 

[Spunkymunky]

Personally i love giving head. Dont know why, just do. But i know plenty of girls who dont....and the main reason that comes up for their dislike is things that guys do while they're doing it. Like pushing up and hitting the gag reflex or choking. And the smell. And the taste. But you definetly need to talk to her about it, might be something u can change or it might just be she doesnt like it. Either way, its obviously bothering you so bring it up

 

[Minxxy]

Hygeine is crucial for head. My ex would come home from work and want it... I coined the term 'work dick'. He knew if there was work dick, there would be no head giving. He caught on really quickly and soon he would come home, I would get a peck on the cheek before he ran to the shower to scrub!

I am like Spunkymunky... love giving head. But like she said, no putting your hands on the back of her head and pushing... you need to just let her do her thing... Oh and MAKE NOISE! I dated a guy who was silent. I felt so self conscious because I thought he wasnt enjoying it. He always said it was fantastic afterwards, but we need encouragement dammit! If it feels good, let us know...

 

[aussie_single34]

Wish I could find a girl who loved giving

Men are conditioned from an early age to to quiet
Primarily cause they are listening for the door so they don't get caught by mum having a wank

Women are conditioned to make noise and sound like they are enjoying it

 

[Spunkymunky]

I agree with the noise thing minxxy, in relation to sex and head. Make noise boys!! Then we know your enjoying it.

 

[TemptMe]

Time and patience is a definite. I love to know I have given such pleasure to my partner. To hear his satisfaction makes it a very horny experience. I love it.

 

[Tiggirl]

I love giving head...but I agree, it has to be clean, smell nice, and shaved/trimmed is a big plus. You should definitely ask her why she's so against it =p

 

[Cavesquig]

The general consensus within the male population seems to be that receiving a BJ is one of lifes greatest pleasures. For me, each time has been a relatively dull experience

Throughout my life I've received BJs from many different ladies..........

Given the choice of receiving a BJ or a kiss on the lips, the kiss would get my vote every time.


..........Am I wierd, or what ????

 

[perthcanbehot]

yes......yes you are
haha j/k

 

[chris]

no cant say ur wierd cause i never get off on a bj too i wont knock it back either im guessing the only way i can get off on a bj is to just "skull fuck" the poor girl which is not nice

 

[svengali]

I think you have probably been unlucky or, maybe, you just are not into it and there is nothing wrong with that. Many people on this and other forums rave about the delights of anal sex but the idea turns my stomach. To each his own.

One thing I have noticed is that a B.J.with a condom on is much less stimulating than one without. With the raincoat the lady has to work much harder to get the message through to the little guy.

 

[corneus]

Yes, indeed Svengali - to each his own.
But this does remind me of a story about a Profesor telling his students that a good bowel movement can actually be as satisfying as sex.
To which one of his students replied " Well, either I don't know how to shit, or you don't know how to fuck!"

 

[aussie_single34]

I love blowjobs
I was always under the impression there was no such thing as a bad one
But each to their own
Send the suckers this way if you don't want em

 

[svengali]

But this does remind me of a story about a Profesor telling his students that a good bowel movement can actually be as satisfying as sex.
To which one of his students replied " Well, either I don't know how to shit, or you don't know how to fuck!"
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L.O.L. I must remember ths one.;D

 

[SubNymphet]

hmmm never had a complaint yet.... but i must say it is no fun if the guy has a condom on... to much work too little stimulation.... lol.

 

[TemptMe]

Ho Hum

Well if one doesn't want to be there or the participants don't really have the desire to take part, it is just going through the motions. Add one very receptive body and one who loves to be doing the giving and it gets amazingly awesome!!!!!!! :icon_blow

 

[svengali]

Well, I have just tested Cavey's theory (about blowjobs being not much chop, that is)in the best possible way.

I have just returned from a mind-blowing interlude with the lovely Mya at Club 316. After I had gone down on her she returned the favour in spades. The sight of this lovely woman gobbling my little guy was nearly enough to blow my mind without the incredible sensations she was conjuring up with her mouth and fingers. It took all my willpower and experience to hang in there and save myself for the main event.

Definitely, mutual french is one of the best parts of sex for me.

One thing I have discovered, though, sixty nine is not the best way of going about it. Far better to give and do a good job of that then receive and concentrate of that. Sexual multitasking is not easy.

 

[viking32]

joke when do you know you have had a good headjob,,,,
its when the bed sheets are sucked up your ass ...lol..
i do like to gett a head job,,,as svengali said and has been my thought for many years you please your partner and you gett heaps your self,,,,i will go into it a bit later,,,,still trying to gett a bit better recovering from a op at the moment ..getting there ...mind you thats what i am saying when i gett a head job too...lol..