Going from a sex worker to a Mistress

[Miss Monique]

What are your thoughts?
Long term client. 10 plus years business arrangement. Close call of wife finding out. Now proposal of becoming his mistress. Exclusive to him. How common is this? Would you be comfortable with such arrangement?

 

[HappyPirate]

If both parties have mutual interest and enjoy each other company and can come to a mutual agreement on time and finances, I would think it would become a beneficial to both parties, hence an excellent arrangement for all.
GoodLuck

 

[kaibigan]

My first thought was similar to what @HappyPirate has articulated.

My second thought was that as a service provider, you presumably get to clock off when he's not around. What does "exclusive to him" mean (and would it mean something different to you than what it would mean to him) and how would it impact your ability to form/maintain relationships outside the arrangement?

 

[mrys]

My only concern is what happens when the arrangement ends? You would have let all your regular clients go and you would have to start from the beginning again building up a new group of regulars? Other than that I think it's a no brainer

 

[mountainbikingateve]

Going exclusive, if that means you give up your livelihood, approach with caution.

 

[Westozman]

How are you going to pay your rent and other bills? Sounds like a great arrangement for him lol.

 

[voyuerism]

What are your thoughts?
Long term client. 10 plus years business arrangement. Close call of wife finding out. Now proposal of becoming his mistress. Exclusive to him. How common is this? Would you be comfortable with such arrangement?

I'd be thinking no. If he can convince you with money that you're his alone , he sounds rather cold , conniving, convincing and controlling.
But who knows , maybe he's only psychopathic ??

 

[Miss Monique]

How are you going to pay your rent and other bills? Sounds like a great arrangement for him lol.

I'm financially secure and independent. I own more than one property freehold. This is not my only source of income. I'm well educated and also work in the disability sector. Plus currently doing my masters degree in psychology

 

[Miss Monique]

My first thought was similar to what @HappyPirate has articulated.

My second thought was that as a service provider, you presumably get to clock off when he's not around. What does "exclusive to him" mean (and would it mean something different to you than what it would mean to him) and how would it impact your ability to form/maintain relationships outside the arrangement?

Very valid points. I do have a partner interstate. They are relocating in January when thier commitments end

 

[Miss Monique]

My only concern is what happens when the arrangement ends? You would have let all your regular clients go and you would have to start from the beginning again building up a new group of regulars? Other than that I think it's a no brainer

All of my regular gentlemen have known me for some years. Many, have seen me the whole time I have been in this industry. I come and go from this. Part of how, I have maintained my mental health and well-being.
At my age sweetheart, that's not a concern.

 

[1steelrod]

I'm financially secure and independent. I own more than one property freehold. This is not my only source of income. I'm well educated and also work in the disability sector. Plus currently doing my masters degree in psychology

So you know the rules.
Don't fall in love with clients.
Don't forget that you have a plan.
Don't do anything that will put your security at risk.
Remember. If you wanted a boyfriend you would have done it years ago.
Why take a husband who is cheating on his wife but has a working girl as his personal booty call girl.
My thoughts .

 

[johnmatilda]

Don't do it. Sounds like it may become too personal.

 

[DickieWu]

It sounds like things are moving to a new level, and it's more than just business transactions. As long as you're both aware of where it's heading and having fun, enjoy the ride! It's the start of a new chapter. Congratulations!

 

[sdm85]

I'm financially secure and independent. I own more than one property freehold. This is not my only source of income. I'm well educated and also work in the disability sector. Plus currently doing my masters degree in psychology

It'd be a little unusual to most normal people but i'd imagine in really wealthy circles it might be more common and accepted?

You're clearly pretty switched on so i guess the only thing that matters is if you think it's the right thing for you?

 

[Madam Tracey]

Do what feels right for you . Nothing is foreever. You can always change your mind if things are not going the way you thought they might. Just dont fall in love with a married man! Where you were spreading the love before, now he is going to be getting all of it, and you.

 

[quiet achiever]

Exclusive?? That sounds like a one way street. He is not being Exclusive, so why should you. If he has you as a mistress, then why should you not have a "Fuckboy" on the side also?

 

[johnmatilda]

Exclusive?? That sounds like a one way street. He is not being Exclusive, so why should you. If he has you as a mistress, then why should you not have a "Fuckboy" on the side also?

Maybe he isn't getting it from the wife and Monique is his "only" one?!

 

[Felicitous]

Is he going to accept you are exclusive at your word or want other reassurance?

 

[Miss Monique]

Exclusive?? That sounds like a one way street. He is not being Exclusive, so why should you. If he has you as a mistress, then why should you not have a "Fuckboy" on the side also?

He has a wife. And the proposal was I no longer see other clients in exchange for a unit and weekly allowance/living expenses.
It was a very generous financial offer.
I also have a partner

 

[Miss Monique]

Is he going to accept you are exclusive at your word or want other reassurance?

Great question
They have known me for over 10 years. They are aware I have a partner. I like to think they know I'm a women of integrity.
I have not made a decision on his offer. As my own personal relationship will come first

 

[Miss Monique]

Do what feels right for you . Nothing is foreever. You can always change your mind if things are not going the way you thought they might. Just dont fall in love with a married man! Where you were spreading the love before, now he is going to be getting all of it, and you.

There is no emotional attachment or love. It's strictly a business arrangement.