For you Ladies who have partners you don't appreciate enough.......
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Hey DD, i was reading that, like 2 mins ago, its so beautiful. Man i need an early night that shit is making me emotional.
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As a man, I'm a bit miffed. Mr Marley, for whom I have the greatest respect (ya mon), felt the need to spell out 'her heart', whereas in his advice to women, he left it unsaid: 'a part of him he knows you can break'. I worked it out, no need to spoon feed us. We're not as dumb as we look.
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XLNC......
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Lordy that Jamaican Ganga and rum Made Marley all Lovey dovey touchy feely
He'd sang that on stage. Then straight out backstage to romp with any and every groupie he could Not giving one toss for the "Emotions" he was spouting 5mins earlier
In my humble drug free sober opinion
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Was having similar hazy thoughts H2....
Yea mon..
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Stealing this to show hubby
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Appreciation is shown with keen currency = When you not got a full time job- pull your weight at home!!!! That goes for both sexes by the way. The key to a happy domestic life is being fracking domestic together- and knowing when to blow off house work for a good time but not leaving it for one person to be responsible for everything. >>>>Everyone feels more appreciated when the home is cared for, otherwise it just looks like a sad reflection of how you feel about each other and yourself<<<<
Usually when people tell me they feel under appreciated i just have to ask them- " what have you done to make your partner feel appreciated lately?" Because yeah- you know that they haven't. It's so easy for people in a relationship to just focus on themselves and their own needs, and their own complaints.
Usually when people tell me they feel under appreciated i just have to ask them- " what have you done to make your partner feel appreciated lately?" Because yeah- you know that they haven't. It's so easy for people in a relationship to just focus on themselves and their own needs, and their own complaints.
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I love that...... I agree.....when people come to me about a situation....any situation......if they have the strength to embrace the question below.....resolution will be on its way.
What have you done or not done to contribute to this situation?
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Well said Tania Desire
So what happens when the above is not working......what if the non full time worker partner doesn't do what should be done. It's not like you can leave or nothing...especially if you have kids. I'd imagine lots of fighting and arguing....how if partner doesn't give a shit ?
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Well when you feel like there is something missing we always know... COMMUNICATION seems to be something we all lack at times. Could be many different reasons but still comes back to us talking, not pushing each other away. Yeah having kids isn"t no easy job, more so when there 12months apart, but we bring them to this Earth so we should try and bring them up as a family.. It"s also alot easier to write this when you know in yourself how things could have and should have been different...Well said Tania Desire
So what happens when the above is not working......what if the non full time worker partner doesn't do what should be done. It's not like you can leave or nothing...especially if you have kids. I'd imagine lots of fighting and arguing....how if partner doesn't give a shit ?
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Well when you feel like there is something missing we always know... COMMUNICATION seems to be something we all lack at times. Could be many different reasons but still comes back to us talking, not pushing each other away. Yeah having kids isn"t no easy job, more so when there 12months apart, but we bring them to this Earth so we should try and bring them up as a family.. It"s also alot easier to write this when you know in yourself how things could have and should have been different...
I totally agree with you happytimes... But
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Yes DD....Lol maybe you're right....maybe not
The done thing to wanna care so much eh?
The done thing to wanna care so much eh?
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Well when you feel like there is something missing we always know... COMMUNICATION seems to be something we all lack at times. Could be many different reasons but still comes back to us talking, not pushing each other away. Yeah having kids isn"t no easy job, more so when there 12months apart, but we bring them to this Earth so we should try and bring them up as a family.. It"s also alot easier to write this when you know in yourself how things could have and should have been different...
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funny you put that up as after the honeymoon is over someone tries to change the other. Thats the part i dont get, you go out, become lovers for who you are then after x amount of time your suppose to change, WHY?
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Well said Tania Desire
So what happens when the above is not working......what if the non full time worker partner doesn't do what should be done. It's not like you can leave or nothing...especially if you have kids. I'd imagine lots of fighting and arguing....how if partner doesn't give a shit ?
Well I guess it comes down to having common goals and a common outlook. If there isn't a compatibility there and there never was then I guess it'd be pretty hard to manage a relationship with two people trying to "run" it differently...
If there was and things have changed...maybe partner x doesn't do their fair share- maybe they don't give a shit...or maybe it just appears that way. I'd question the situation more deeply to find out if something else was affecting them- Depression, stress, environment, finances?
A relationship that has no positive outlook should not be left to die. If there is no want for either party to make the relationship work, then a decision has to be made to move on... However scary that might be for some of the long long goers. My Hubby and I separated for a time about 5 yrs into our relationship- we needed a makeover. It was difficult and we do have kids and did back then as well. The final resolve for us was that we actually wanted to be together and wanted it to work...so we made it.
But you can only make a relationship work if two people want it to, and are willing to work hard at it. And thats the stock standard answer for most relationships...People can leave when they want to, if they really want to, but they choose not to.
I believe that fighting and arguing is a healthy component to any relationship but disrespect is not.
As the "s-type" in my relationship part of my journey is discovering ways to communicate my needs without being demanding, but allowing a certain amount of transparency. I'm allowed to stir a debate, and put ideas forward, vent and in my own fiery headstrong way get riled up...But he's too cool for that... He just ignores me and does want he wants in the end... My moods can't control him.
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Smoke this one Bob Marley ………Lots of people talk and few of them know soul of a woman was created below….
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Well with out knowing much about said relationship happytimes...
there's always a cooling down period after the honeymoon stage. In saying that it depends on how long the honeymoon stage lasts for. When you become a couple and grow learning each other.... you get to no what each other is about and where you want to be in life. If both partners are on the same page in what they want to achieve in life together well all good. But if partner doesn't share your expectations why continue ? No one should make you change who you are.....it's you wanting to make changes in life with said partner to step up. This is called a commitment to each other and going the extra mile.
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Such a nice saying and so true
Ruby Mack
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very true xxxSuch a nice saying and so true