Ejaculatory Response

[Decksie]

Hi I'm hoping for some advice....

Firstly, coming quickly has never previously been a problem of mine. However I recently went 2 years without sex. I have been in a relationship now for 3 months with a girl I'm crazy about but seem to have lost control. At first I put it down to the length of time it's been since I had sex, then to being just so damn turned on by her. But over time nothing is changing, in fact stressing about it is making it worse. It is something I need to address though as I'm sure it is disappointing for her (I haven't brought up the subject).

I tried doing some research on how to retrain oneself but just got hundreds of websites trying to sell me cons.

Anyone been through a period like this and have any tips on how to fix it (besides thinking of dead puppies)? Or will it just improve?

Thanks.

 

[SubNymphet]

good luck with this... im sure she isnt as disappointed by it as you think she is... but in these situations, there are a few things i would suggest (btw, my ex had this problem... so i know im not exactly talking from first hand experience, but might be worth a shot)

firstly, if you do cum earlier than you would like, dont just stop, keep trying to please her, go down on her etc... make sure shes satisfied...

practise on your own with ejaculation control, masturbate until just before your going to cum, then stop for moment, then keep going, stopping whenever you feel your about to cum, you should notice the time getting longer and longer...

cock rings!!! great for both partners... help to maintain an erection (not sure about delaying ejaculation?) but if you get the rubber ones with bullet vibrator... mmmm! pleasure plus.. hehe

anyway, hope you dont mind a woman putting her opinion in! but believe me when i say your probably more concerned about it than she is...

 

[svengali]

One simple remedy is to use a condom. It cuts down the sensations and can help prolong the experience if you have a hair trigger. Also, don't be in too big a hurry to enter her - concentrate on foreplay, particularly D.A.T.Y. and make sure she gets off at least once before you climb aboard. Above all, talk to her and find out what she likes. So long as she is getting her pleasure you are keeping up your end of the bargain.

 

[Decksie]

Thanks for the replies!

I do continue her pleasure post ejaculation however she has said before that it is pure penetration she loves most. So obviously I'd like to give her more of that. Often during foreplay she'll demand penetration so I am a bit limited on the whole bringing her to orgasm pre actual penetration. In any case in an ideal situation I would have the ability, should I so choose, to work up a little foreplay and finish the job vaginally.

I'll try this stop start method thing. I see it written about but never heard anyone claim it works. Only seen someone claim that it upsets his girlfriend (well of course, this is the whole reason cumming early is so undesirable because they have a tendency to 'reset'. So I'll try it in alone time and see if it gradully improves.

As I said, this was not a problem in the past.... I can't figure out why it is now... But for the life of me, a couple of mins in and I'm already feeling the build. I know it could be worse, but it could be much, much better. I sure she is concerned, I know she loves me but people don't have endless patience, sex is an important part of any relationship and I don't want her to have to settle for anything less than she deserves.

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[gablueyes]

I would suggest that you engage in lots of foreplay and make sure that she has received lots of attention to her neck, lips, breasts, and other areas.

Wear a condom, you might ask her to help you put it on.

You do not have to worry about your sperm, as they age/die out, the male body will absorb them and they will pass out in your urine.

 

[Ghost Protocol]

hmmmm, let her know you are having an issue .. but not during sex .. lol ... communicate ! be open and she will love you for it .

you can jerk before you pick her up for your date , that will delay things .. if you live together .. not so easy , im not sure where the problem lies , sex with a loving partner is usually 2 or 3 rounds , only westerners think sex is shoot and finish ..

shoot , then start kissing and cuddling again .. if she is as attractive as you say , you will rise to attention again fast.
second or third round is where she will start to have multiple "orgasms's"

im so practiced at this now , my dick stays hard .. even after coming ..w/l's look at me funny after a session .. hahaha!!

when i was younger on a hot date in the good part, i would do maths , think of the tax dept , anything to get her off first ..

condoms will help but can hinder the intimacy we want with our lovers ..

do pelvic floor exercises ( the muscle that makes your erect dick twitch), as you get older this muscle will decay fast if your not already super fit ..
just some ideas .
j

 

[retrowolf]

I went through a very brief period of this (I find it is very related to a mental state as well as physical fitness, either of those decrease so does my resistance) and my ex was very similar in that she wasn't really interested in foreplay as much as a solid pounding. We invested in a hollow strap on that I could wear if I blew too early. Just knowing it was in the draw was enough to help me get my head back in the game and we only ended up using it on very long sessions (read 4-5 hours).

 

[that guy28]

I say balls up. Foreplay is important, work on her a bit then dont hesitate to rush round 1, just make sure you've got round 2 in you. No one lasts long on round 1 so just get it done then get back on the horse. not to call her a horse, u no what i mean.

 

[McLuvin]

Priligy works for me. Feel free to Google it.