Does It Matter Who Makes More Money In Your Relationship?

[Anastacia]

In 2013 women are better educated and higher-skilled than men, in identity terms we’re still stuck in a 1960s world in which “Men work in the labor force and women work in the home.” These ’60s era gender identities prevent many men from partnering with women who out-earn them......
The increase in the overall earning capacity of women makes it that much harder for men to find partners they can safely out-earn. Men don't like it if woman earn more than them. Whoopsie daisy!-) But really....In 2013...
Does It Matter Who Makes More Money In Your Relationship? Can love survive when a woman earns MORE than a man?

 

[paulmack22]

I'll gladly change my number plate to "KEPT" at any time..........

Seriously though, I really don't see what difference it makes?? I am blessed to have a partner who is not only my soul mate and love of my life, but the most amazing person I have ever known and that equates to who earns what being totally insignificant...........just mt 2c worth..........

 

[johnlou]

hi Amanda , I am into "Chivalry" ( a very high level ) but I am also into equal opportunity with my partner ( if I had 1 ) . I would not feel bad if the lady earned more than myself .

john

 

[Dallas]

Definitely not an issue for me. I would be very comfortable being in a relationship with someone who earned more than me and/or had a higher level of education. I'd also be just as comfortable if they earned no money and had a low educational level, what's most important is how we connect as a couple.

 

[HappyPirate]

Ahoy I agree with Bro Johnlou, Ayyyyeeeee show me the Money

hi Amanda , I am into "Chivalry" ( a very high level ) but I am also into equal opportunity with my partner ( if I had 1 ) . I would not feel bad if the lady earned more than myself .

john

 

[BigMike]

Don't bother me!
Every partnered up women I know earns significantly less than their other half. None of them women have what I'd call 'low paying jobs'... it's just, they happen to be with guys who earn very good dough.

Years ago I asked a girl in work out. She said "no but thanks, I don't date guys I work with"
Cool. Fastforward a few months and she's dating a co-worker. The consensus is he's one of the biggest wankers you're ever likely to meet. But hey, each to their own. He earns about twice as much as me. Has investment properties. Buys her shit. I can't help but wonder if money was a factor? Maybe that's unfair.

 

[Fudd]

hi Amanda , I am into "Chivalry" ( a very high level ) but I am also into equal opportunity with my partner ( if I had 1 ) . I would not feel bad if the lady earned more than myself .

john

....and a big ditto from me too!!....I couldn't give a stuff if my partner earned more than me!

 

[Rochelle]

Can love survive if a woman earns more than a man?
I think it depends on the difference between the incomes.......unless you are super rich and your partner could be a kept man.
In lower income ranks I think it might cause trouble over time. I have seen both sides. She worked casual 10 to 15 hours, he full time job around the 65k......no kids. They had a lot of discussions about her not working more. No reason that she wouldn't be able to do so. It came to a stage that he took 3 months off and basically forced her to go full time in her profession. They are still together.

And the other way round....she worked full time (42k) and he didn't work at all not out of lack of qualification but somehow he wasn't able to stay in a job longer than 3 weeks. The relation ship didn't survive.

Like it or not but money and earning ability is an important factor in a relation ship.......everything else is wishful thinking.


R.xxxxxxxxx

 

[johnlou]

to be honest " MONEY IS THE ROOT OF ALL EVILE " it is what you do with it that matters

john

 

[Benny]

doesnt matter who makes what in my family,the wife and kids take it anyway..............

 

[Barbosa]

Ayeeeeeeeeee;- Wanted, woman with high income`s, come and join Myyyyyy crew

 

[Langtrees VIP 6]

I grew up in a county where man went out to earn and the woman stayed home, but when the man started putting his own needs in front of the kids, rent, bills and what the hell are we going to eat next week, I decided to take matters in my own hands. So you can say I had a kept man, reluctantly.

I never really worried about it much at first because I enjoyed working but it got too much when he got so comfortable being kept that he left the house, the kids and everything else all up to me.

I don’t want to be kept of keep a man. I would be happy with someone that is inspired enough to fill in where he is needed even if he doesn't have money.

"Equal rights and justice" Bob Marley
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[Perth boy]

I'm a bit old fashioned on this. I like to be the provider and I like my lady looking after the house and kids. It is good for her to have a part time job so she doesn't go nuts at home.

But would I mind if she had a higher income nope!

 

[Farm Boy]

Link is broken,so has been taken down


Some one tell me if this loaded ?

And my apologies for loading spam but it amused me .

 

[Salvatore]

Personally, I'd love my better half to swap with me and go back to full time. We earn pretty much the same. My supervisor just took six months off to look after their new bubs. His wife earns twice as much as him and he is on $100,000.00.

 

[Barbosa]

Wanted, woman with high income`s, come and join Myyyyyy crew

Ayeeeeeeeeee;- Wanted, woman with high income`s, come and join Myyyyyy crew

 

[Contrarian]

It's not real biggie in a relationship where there's a meeting of the minds but...

Quite often when one spouse earns tons more money than the other; it's for several reasons apart from luck and hard work. It's usually because the higher earner, particularly the woman, has now come/grown into her own or (and this phrase is so loaded) has left the other person behind mentally and socially.

I know of two couples. In one case the guy supported her through uni, looked after the kids, helped her establish her own business and it took off. He was a good bloke and faithful - all his work mates attest to that. She dumped him one day (I'd like to try not to take sides but I can't help but think she was merciless about it) on the basis that they'd grown apart. He was shattered and tried for reconciliation but she wasn't interested and in a fit of depression he took his own life.

The other couple. He's a teacher and a very good one, she was a home maker and when the kids grew up, she ventured out and got into sales and with her commissions; earned lots more than he did. And she changed (or perhaps always had those qualities) into a self-driven, ambitious, sophisticated lady complete with designer clothes and the power dressing bit. They bought a house complete with harbour views, 3 stories, pool, spa and tennis court. And that's when they split up - she felt she had left him behind. He felt this wasn't the woman he married and loved "'til death do us part".Interestingly, the kids were shattered because Mum had gone and was someone they read about on the papers as a succesful businesswoman.

There's the often debated history of one John Hewson. He was from a very strict Baptist background, poor upbringing and married his sweetheart. He was very working class, studied like a demon and got his doctorate and acquired financial success. The common belief is that he felt he'd left her behind - so the story goes. And left his wife and kids on Christmas day.

So it's not so much the money but the possible power play that comes with it. I guess we're also so genetically bred to think of the man as the hunter/gatherer and the woman as the domestic. The dynamics do change e.g. if one spouse says he/she wants a new car and the other objects e.g. it'd be a bad example to the kids about spending money needlessly and the spouse says; "I'm earning my own money so I'll do what I want." That in itself could create tension. Both go to a restaurant and both pull out the credit cards and the waiter seeing that one spouse has a platinum card and the other has a conventional one, takes the platinum and some egos could be sore.

Some adapt to it more easily than others.

 

[colzilla]

She's going to have to make the money because I'm as lazy as all f##k.

 

[homer]

Some men are intimidated by the idea of their women earn more than them. I'll gladly retire as long as she keeps bringing home the bacon.
If you don't mind your woman being taller than you, then you wouldn't mind her making more than you. Does that relate? lol...

 

[Dallas]

Early in the year I met an 30yo tourist from Hawaii down at the beach. During the few days we spent together in Perth I discovered that she set a new standard for high achievers, she was a qualified chemical engineer, studying for her PhD, could speak 5 languages fluently and was the marketing manager for a huge French cosmetic company. (So that's why she was sitting on the beach on her own ) When I asked her why she was travelling on her own and not with a partner, she said that men find her intimidating especially as she earns much more than most so she hasn't had a boyfriend for some time. She was fun and great looking yet guys freak out over how much she earns??

 

[colzilla]

She wasn't pulling your plonka was she Mr D?

 

[Dallas]

Anything's possible Mr C, but I did test her on her languages, and she recited the first 50 elements from the periodic table during sex and didn't charge me so that rules out a few possibilities

 

[Happy2]

If the wife is the main breadwinner I would ask to questions

Is the man kept barefoot and in the kitchen

And is the husband allowed to use the excuse of a headache when he is asking for the housekeeping money on Thursday night

 

[homer]

If the wife is the main breadwinner I would ask to questions

Is the man kept barefoot and in the kitchen

And is the husband allowed to use the excuse of a headache when he is asking for the housekeeping money on Thursday night

I reckon the husband will have heaps of headache down below, not able to bury his head in a warm burrow for most times that he is by himself at home twiddling the thumbs.

 

[colzilla]

Anything's possible Mr C, but I did test her on her languages, and she recited the first 50 elements from the periodic table during sex and didn't charge me so that rules out a few possibilities

Free sex... What the hell is that?

When is the wedding because this girl sounds a keeper

 

[Dallas]

It wasn't that free, I had to work dam hard and do the whole condom thing myself! We get spoiled by our w/l's Plus she kept losing focus and thinking about work and trying to multitask

She's sent me pics of her place in Maui, looks like a mansion, I think her Dad is like the Mayor or something.

 

[colzilla]

The way you describe it the free stuff sounds bloody awful Mr D.

 

[homer]

It wasn't that free, I had to work dam hard and do the whole condom thing myself! We get spoiled by our w/l's Plus she kept losing focus and thinking about work and trying to multitask

She's sent me pics of her place in Maui, looks like a mansion, I think her Dad is like the Mayor or something.

Jackpot! she's your Maui connection...lol...surf's up!!..you need to make a huge impression on her that she only focus on you during the session. Give her that huge O she so deserve for reciting the elements. One for each element...lol

 

[Dallas]

Well I kind of missed the timer going off and the knock on the door, thought about setting my own , especially as she kept taking work calls - the downside to high achievers. She was a lovely lady though Maybe next time I'll buy one of those mobile phone blockers!

 

[Dallas]

Jackpot! she's your Maui connection...lol...surf's up!!..you need to make a huge impression on her that she only focus on you during the session. Give her that huge O she so deserve for reciting the elements. One for each element...lol

Yeah! could be right there Mr H, she's invited me to her place in Maui or France when she's working. Hey maybe I could rewrite her periodic table ie - Orgasmium, Gspotium, screaminium, iphonium but he not answerium