do you think its ok to see your ex?

[JasRob]

I have stopped going to brothels and seeing WLs since I met my partner. However a few weeks ago I received an email from my ex the tone of her email seems to imply something. Sounds like she wants me back, I felt something I couldn't explain. Maybe because we didn't have the chance to talk before we go on our separate ways. Breaking up was not that clear between us its because we live thousands of miles away didnt have the chance to communicate for almost 6 years and now she lives just a few blocks away from us. That makes me want to see her but I think my feelings are much stronger with my partner now. But I think we still have this 'unfinished business'...I want to see her just for a night but I have no plans of leaving my partner...I just want us to talk and maybe just be friends after....:

 

[ozguy]

Sounds like someone is about to get themselves in the sh!t

 

[Jazzmine]

I agree with OZGUY....
Dangerous!! Unless you're guna tell ya current partner everything, even then you run the risk of having her not believe your honesty anyways. I know I'd be super pissed if my partner went and met up with any X of his. But then again, everyone has 'that one person' the rules don't apply to..

 

[All4fun]

As the Robot in Lost in Space used to "Danger Danger" Yeah I know it shows my age and it is just a bit nerdy but very applicable!!!!

 

[Tania Admin]

!!!!!!!Red Alert!!!!!!

 

[svengali]

I agree with caution but this is one scenario where total frankness with all parties is vital if you are going to get through it with your reputation and relationship intact.

Firstly, if your current partner means anything to you you must tell her what has happened and what you intend to do about it. Sneakily seeing the ex without telling her is bound to end in tears.

Similarly, the ex should be left in no doubt that you are committed to your new relationship and if she is looking to rekindle the spark it isn't going to happen. Maybe that will finish the unfinished business once and for all but whichever way it goes you will have acted honestly and cannot be faulted for that.

 

[Sherry]

All very good answers posted for this particular problem. I wonder though if you do go and see her are you really only going to end up talking? It's sounding like you are indeed heading in to dangerous territory! If you really like the one you are with then I wouldn't push it. I'd be surprised if your current partner is going to be cool with you going to see her cause I know I wouldn't be! You could end up ruining your relationship for something that may not be worth it.

 

[Farm Boy]

Old girlfriends are just like the cars we had in our youth ,they seem much better though the mist of years.

 

[Madam Jacqui]

Big Mistake, JasRob. Real Big. xxxxxxx

 

[Farm Boy]

I have stopped going to brothels and seeing WLs since I met my partner. However a few weeks ago I received an email from my ex the tone of her email seems to imply something. Sounds like she wants me back, I felt something I couldn't explain. Maybe because we didn't have the chance to talk before we go on our separate ways. Breaking up was not that clear between us its because we live thousands of miles away didnt have the chance to communicate for almost 6 years and now she lives just a few blocks away from us. That makes me want to see her but I think my feelings are much stronger with my partner now. But I think we still have this 'unfinished business'...I want to see her just for a night but I have no plans of leaving my partner...I just want us to talk and maybe just be friends after....:

I HOPE THIS HELPS

'I got a phone call from a gorgeous ex-girlfriend of mine the other day. We
lost track of time, chatting about the wild nights we used to enjoy
together. I couldn’t believe it when she asked if I’d like to meet up and
maybe rekindle a little of that magic.
"Wow!", I said, "I don’t know if I could keep pace with you now! I’m a bit older and a bit balder than when you last saw me!"
She giggled and said she was sure I’d meet the challenge!
"Yeah", I said, "just so long as you don’t mind a man with a waistband that’s a few inches wider these days!"
She laughed and told me to stop being so silly! She teased me, saying that she thought tubby bald men were cute!
"Anyway, I’ve put on a couple of pounds myself!" she giggled
.....so I told her to fuck off.

 

[JasRob]

Thanks guys your posts truly helped me, emotionally!

I end up telling my partner about the email from my ex. Because the point here is I don't want to mess things up with my current relationship, to cut it short I am afraid of losing my partner just for some silly past. So I saw her reaction she felt a little scared (it shows in her eyes) but to my surprise she said its okay to meet her besides all's well that ends well.

My plan was to send my ex an email or just give her a call. I don't think seeing each other is really that important right? Besides I am now happy with my partner...what do you guys think?

 

[Sharaz]

I think you have done the right thing, if what you have is good, why go back in time again??
Don't tempt fate.

 

[Fudd]

...So I saw her reaction she felt a little scared (it shows in her eyes) but to my surprise she said its okay to meet her besides all's well that ends well...

....well, what I know about women can be written on the head of a pin.......with room to spare. However, I'm sure that if I was in this situation and went to see an ex after the current partner said that she was ok with it.....I would be a dead man walking because the current partner would then have said something like "well, u should have known better than to take me literally" (or words to that effect) afterwards.

 

[barrington]

Seeing each other is not important..in fact it may well make matters worse. A face to face meeting could stir up old emotions.
Alternatively it could prove to you that you have moved on.
Not worth taking the chance though.

 

[that guy28]

Take solace in that not seeing her is the right thing to do, if you're looking for the go ahead, you're unlikely to find it anywhere.
If fates not favoured it, don't fuck with fate.

Bitch is nasty.

 

[JasRob]

If fates not favoured it, don't fuck with fate.

AGREEEEEEE!::thumbsup:

 

[outlaw01]

Mmmmmmmmm seeing your ex can be pretty dangerous it can stir up old emotions and if your not careful the heart can rule the head!! Be honest with your current girlfriend ask her what she thinks and explain everything.
The only good that can come from seeing your ex is closure for you

 

[DDxoxo]

I am friends with all my Exs

- Because they have always been & will always be my friends!!
- some still lovers!!

Life is too short!!!
But that's just me!!

 

[bushbabe]

I have a good relationship with SWMBO. I can see and have conversations with my ex's as long as I don't go to the next stage, and she the same with hers. In fact, she is very friendly with most of them and I with her ex's. BUT WE DON"T GO ANY FURTHER.

From the outset, I told her that a lot of my ex's were still friends, but no more, and that she had to accept it......... she did.

 

[Sandi Lang]

They are ex for a reason dont forget that.. If it worked you would be together.. Move on forward...x