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Dealing with Sexual Frustration

DDxoxo

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Sexual frustration can make you depressed and feel as if you are not really living.... Everyone is different, so some might not share these feelings, and suggestions may not apply to you..
You may sigh "easier said than done". Don't despair. Select the one thing which might be easiest for you to do and try that. Take your own time and only attempt things when you are ready. Keep a diary to chart your progress.
Recording your dodgy days and wonderful wanks.
You may initially reject some of these ideas as "soppy" or "hippy shit" or "too threatening" but if your problem is causing pain, surely now is the time to open your mind to all possibilities, begin adventures and follow a journey to find sexual happiness, perhaps with another wonderful person!
 
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Sexual frustration can be experienced in many forms. A disabled person without the use of their arms and limited movement may be unable to masturbate. A man may have many sexual encounters in prison yet still pines for his wife. A woman who has sex every day with her husband and nearly reaches orgasm each time will most probably feel frustrated. A man who comes too quickly with his wife feels terrible frustration. A married person who doesn’t get the type of sex they crave for, goes crazy with frustration.

However, it’s sometimes helpful to realise that having a partner does not always lead to sexual fulfilment. Many married couples never have sex.
 
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Here are some of the feelings which people describe when they complain of sexual frustration.
Feelings of Sexual Frustration of the Single Person
• A deep longing for sexual intercourse
• A deep longing just to touch someone you fancy

• Your genitals are about to burst

• You need passionate abandonment

• You need penetration / to be penetrated

• You need to express love and be loved

• You want sex NOW!
• You crave your fetish

• Your feel self pity

• Deprivation, depression and sadness

• Jitteryness, inability to concentrate

• Low self esteem

• Masturbation reminds you of your isolation

• Denying your true yearnings

• Despising the people you desire
 
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Touch is basic human requirement and deprivation brings skin hunger. One sexually isolated person said that it was not sex on the television that upset her, but seeing people hand-in hand and touching each other. Many disabled people complain that they never get touched, just prodded.

Just being in the presence of people you find sexy can be rejuvenating, your wellbeing enriched by the physical and spiritual contact.

If you feel deprived of touch, try to engage in activities which bring you into close contact with others. Hopefully this will include someone you really enjoy feeling close to.

Some dance classes will bring you into close proximity – especially the Tango, which involves clutching your partner closely to your bosom. Massage classes will bring your fingers to the bodies other students. There are all kinds of other classes which involve touch, some aimed at increasing trust in other people and others exploring human interaction. Search around till you find something local that is suitable.

If your disability makes all such ideas impossible, don’t give up. You still need to get touched in a tender way. Hire a masseur or masseuse, and request that your fingers are allowed to touch their body too,
 
HappyPirate

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Ahoy well written DD, its all true
"Now I need to touch my Rum bottle"
Cheers and Pass the Rum
 
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I have a very high sex drive and find a massage once a week really helps.
I love hot oil massage even if not done to be a sexual turn on I always find it very sexual and exciting.
I am amazed how different a massage can be with a different lady.

Touch is so exciting.
I have learnt Swedish massage and one lady at a massage place wants me to massage her naked before my happy ending.
She was impressed what I knew and my 5 minute demo what I could do.

And yes I do most times have a happy ending. :)
 
david28

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Ive got a lot of sexual frustration but dont have the money to see a working lady or get a rub n tug. Can anyone help me out???

Im a clean aussie genuine nice guy.
 
ziggy

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Good point, going to have to chart my moods. Sadly partners may have be having sex on the odd occasion but is not always satisfying .
 
Dallas

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DDxoxo said:
Touch is basic human requirement and deprivation brings skin hunger. One sexually isolated person said that it was not sex on the television that upset her, but seeing people hand-in hand and touching each other. Many disabled people complain that they never get touched, just prodded.
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I can totally relate to this as it's the prime reason I see a w/l. As a 52 year old guy who's divorced after spending most of my life in a a relationship with someone who loved and needed touch as much as I but I never thought I'd be in this situation where I see it going on around me but have mostly no control over getting any.

As much as I love and need sex, sometimes I'll book someone just to lay on the couch, rub their feet and have a cuddle. Most people think I'm totally crazy and can't even comprehend why I'd do this, but when you've spent most of your evenings for over half of your life doing this, sitting on your own in the evening night after night is just so foreign and emotionally exhausting. It's far easier getting sex with anyone than it is getting a cuddle on the couch with someone you have a connection with.

I was swimming at a beach called Middleton SA (below) last year, on my own in the rain, and to my surprise and joy, in the deep water a mother dolphin and her baby came up and started swimming with me, I dove around under the water and they came right up to me and let me pat them, we played around for about an hour. They were so beautiful and friendly, it made me think, they knew what I needed and came out of nowhere to give that to me. I wish humans were like this.

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A lack of affection at times is far more frustrating than a lack of sex. Does anyone share this sentiment?
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Certainly do, Master Yoda. In fact I remember seeing Princess Evonne one time. We sat, we cuddled, see chatted, we kissed. That was all. I still came away satisfied.
 
Master Yoda

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Spikey said:
Certainly do, Master Yoda. In fact I remember seeing Princess Evonne one time. We sat, we cuddled, see chatted, we kissed. That was all. I still came away satisfied.
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Such wisdom is what sets you apart as a Titan Lord Spikey....
 
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But seriously, though.

Sometimes it is about emotional frustration and the touch of another person; their full attention, etc, can make you feel needed and even wanted.
 
Master Yoda

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Spikey said:
Oh, Master Yoda. If you are going to be THAT sycophantic, you may as well stick your tongue straight down the back of my trousers.
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Ummmm.....didn't know you thought of me that way. Flattered but no........I'm not that kinda boy lol.
 
djon4u

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As a mature man I seem to have as much sexual energy to burn now as when younger. My partner and I get on well in most areas except (you guessed it) when it comes to sexual activity. Hence I need to see a w/l from time to time.
 
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