Dating a Teenager

[Minxxy]

Hey y'all

Long time no speak.

Have a small prob and need some assistance

So I meet this bloke and all is well. But it turns out like he is a virgin! WTF!
We are like chalk and cheese...

Anyways so we shagged and it is all good, but he is still a bit timid in the bedroom, and I want to fast track him to domination town.
I like my sex rough - I like handcuffs and biting and bossiness and hard fucking. But he is all sex is about making love.

I have asked him about pornos and stuff... and he likes boy + girl = long lovemaking session porn. And me... I like gangbangs and anal and B&D.

Anyone have any tips for turning my good boy bad?
I know it is going to be slowly slowly and require patience, but I just wanna brainstorm ideas so I can get him spanking me in no time.

Thanks

 

[Bluegrass9]

Wow Minxxy you are after a crash course on the wild side. I have to admit now at 57 I am only really learning about all the above.

Since joining this site I soon learnt just how much I did not know. I am seriously thinking going to Uni to do my degree on shagging.

My only suggestion is to show him some DVD's on the wild side and being a male he will be curious and even excited to try it out. Of course you can always lay handcuffs and a whip on the bed and see if the whip is for just squatting flies.
:walk:

 

[SubNymphet]

well minxxy!!! good on you!

If he is open to the idea already, talking about it etc, then i dont think you will have too hard a job converting him

maybe just give him some websites to look at and read up on it all... thats how i got myself educated about all the fun things that way he can do things at his own pace. then possibly start watching some pornos YOU like - with him? see what his response is etc. some people just dont like that sort of porn though, i know even though i am into wild things for sex, i am not into full on porno myself!

have fun!!! keep us updated!!!

 

[Minxxy]

Hey Bluegrass

I have been as open as I can.

Openly talked about loving anal, talked about my fave sex toys, given him porn to view as homework.... But its all about getting him to give it to me in the bedroom.

I dont want him to run for the hills. I want him to be interested and be confident enough to try new things with me. Which is why I am all talk right now and havent asked him to try anything "odd".

Do you think getting him confident in "normal" sex is the key? Get him cocky about his performance in the bedroom with all that is vanilla, then slowly get him into the other stuff?

 

[perth_swinging]

Lingerie/Fetish Clothing + DVD + Swingers club would do it for me.... try that?

 

[johnlou]

hi Minxxy : all i can suggest to you is cum to Brisbane for a holiday

John

 

[Bluegrass9]

All sex is normal if you treat it as so. For example oral sex some shudder at but if you perform it as it is just a beautiful way to give your partner pleasure they are more willing to try it.

Recently I received anal sex with the aid of a sex toy. I admit it was exciting having it done for the first time but I am not sure I had that much pleasure from the experience.

So what I am trying to say is try what ever tickles your fancy and just ask you lover"Want to try this or I like this to be put in here or my mouth gagged with this."

Treat it as it is just a way of giving pleasure and I believe he will be like a duck to water.
:walk:

 

[Fudd]

Do you think getting him confident in "normal" sex is the key? Get him cocky about his performance in the bedroom with all that is vanilla, then slowly get him into the other stuff?

....my view....yep. Us guys need our confidence (read ego) stroked....control that/build on that and you should achieve your objective.

Fudd

 

[Minxxy]

Thanks guys for your help...

We have had some success. He did his homework and has said he would be interested in anal. Oh yay!

Baby steps...

 

[svengali]

Yep, baby steps is the way to go.

Young males may strut and swagger but underneath all that the poor things are as insecure as hell. A few wrong words and a/or an impatient glance from an experienced lady like you could devastate him in seconds and if you once turn him off he will run for the hills.

Take your time and gain his trust then move gradually into the wilder stuff and he will probably surprise you.

"And here's to you Mrs Robinson..........."

 

[Benny01]

Wow Minxxy where were you when i was 18 lol..he's a lucky lucky boy Am not sure what man would have to be tlaked into this, maybe some men are shy i never was nor my mates..but all i can suggest is to guide and talk him through it as your doing it....i love it when a woman knows whats she wants and isnt afraid or shy to ask for it its a huge turn on...i would suggest grabing his cock from behind and sliding into your arse..whilst telling him in a sexy but firm way that you want him to punish your arse and that he's the boss if that doesnt get him going nothing will wish you all the best happy days

 

[Sir Stefan]

Hi Minxxy...Welcome back...long time no see!

Hey Babe...you know the routine...'slowly, slowly catch a monkey'.

He is still young and probably more embarrassed and uncertain of his own ability at this tender stage... So go easy and don't rush in..or you may frighten him away.

Get a diary and write in just ONE new 'routine' for each week in the year.

Tell him what you have done... how you have written 52 new 'techniques' to keep him amused for all of 2010...

Let him keep guessing about just what next weeks 'trick' will be... That will stimulate his erotic mind and he will begin to look forward to each new week.

Tick off each new 'task' as it is achieved and give it a rating, out of 10, as his 'performance rating'...

Before you introduce him into next weeks 'trick' talk to him on the phone and tell him his 'score' for last week... let him know his 'highs' and his 'lows'... That way he will start to think about his personal performance and will strive to 'please' and the reward will be yours to enjoy.

If he responds...and most young hetro sexual males would... then before too long he will be pushing you to bring the next trick forward.

Also by keeping a diary note, for each new 'adventure' you will be able to ask him if he would like to 're-visit' any 'episode'.

I think you are indeed lucky to have a clear un-polluted mind to 'corrupt' to your own desires and needs... Go to it Girl!

 

[Bluegrass9]

Oh wow, now I am excited! Everybody should have one. I would a willing student even to do some homework and being kept in or chained up for not performing as I should.

Serious though I do not like the score system unless there was three ladies judging my performance. And then I may not perform as well the third time.

What a great idea though a diary with a new adventure each week. They would sell like hot cakes-yes even in Summer.
:walk:

 

[Curious1]

You naughty dirty thing you lol
Your just going to have to take it as fast as he can handle. If you go 'bull at a gate' youll probably scare the boy off
Want me to chat to him...give him some pointers? lol
Good luck and have fun!!

 

[naughtish]

what a lucky guy to have u !!

 

[Minxxy]

Hey peeps
Thanks for the assistance!
Just wanted to clarify... the poor lad isnt a teenager (I could dream he was a hot lusty 18yo but alas he is 27yo)
The reason I say 'dating a teenager' is because that is so where this poor lad is.
He has only ever fucked one chick. Once. Thats it.
He is not experienced at sex or relationships and being with him reminds me of my first boyfriend in high school.

SirStefan I love the idea of a new routine a week.... but doesnt that lead him to believe he is going to be around a whole year?! I havent had a r/ship longer than 6 months in many many year. Wandering eye and short attention span and all that. AND guys get scared at the thought of committment too!
Oh fuck it I am going to go buy a sex diary

 

[Bluegrass9]

Hello Minxxy,
I have the solution for you- yes sorry about my choice of words.

Why not put all the routines in a cup of your bra and let him pick one like a lucky dip.

Hell 27 is young-well it is to me being 57.
:walk:

 

[happytimes]

Hi Minxxy, Well what a situation you find yourself in. Why don't you just get dressed up in some hot gear and tell your (younger ha ha just ha) guy you want him to try to do what you want.
If you don't ask him he may never know what it is you really want.
I am sure with your persuasive ways he will catch on pretty quick. Though its been awhile already so are you still being the nice little lady or have you lost your self control yet??O0H...Y Happy New Year ccasion14

 

[Minxxy]

Happytimes I am still taking it slow. I havent brought up the biting or hair pulling again since the first time.
I am thinking I might start with positions and work from there. He has just gone on a business trip so me thinks I might head to adultshop or brasnthings tomorrow and see if I can dig up something nice to surprise him with when he gets back in a few days.

 

[Bluegrass9]

Good thinking Minxxy.
What are our chances to see a preview what you bought?
:walk:

 

[adam74]

Minxy, I've been that guy and I can tell you that it's pretty daunting at first. You are trying your best to give your partner as much pleasure as you can, but you get a little nervous. I took me a while to relax enough to really enjoy sex. My wife is older than me (only by 18 months), but was considerably more experienced when we met in our mid 20's. She was also a lot more sexually aggressive than me and it took some time for us to be in sync. Give the boy some time and he'll come round, especially if the two of you really care for each other. Trust me, he'll be wanting give you some mind blowing sex, but is still trying to work out how to do it.

Like someone else said, baby steps. Too much kinky stuff to begin with will scare him to death!

 

[Minxxy]

Hey y'all
Just giving you an update...
Everything is going really well with the boy.

*surprise surprise* he loves blowjobs and cannot believe he has gone his life without experiencing these amazing things. Arent we lucky I could go for hours!

Our sex life has been a bit of a rollercoaster, with us sometimes having performance issues if we try something new because he gets nervous, so I am slowly working on that by ensuring we perfect the classics and mutating them ever so slightly to avoid problems.

We had some issues with my vagina being a scary no go zone, but I spoke up and was like "hey! foreplay is mutual!" and soon enough he sent his fingers where many have been before him Not perfect technique - but I can work with it!

He has even expressed an interest in my toy box, asking if one night we could pop it open and introduce some battery devices to our bedroom.

So overall, patience is a challenge, but I am putting in the hard yards and reaping the rewards! Thanks everyone for your advice and support!

Minxxy

 

[happytimes]

Hi Minxxy Sounds like your patience is paying off. Glad to see you are happy with your adventure.;D

 

[frendoto]

Minxxy, you are giving that boy an education that he'll never forget. When he's older and reflects on his life, you will be someone he remembers vividly and fondly.

You are doing a great service to all his future partners.

Good luck in your adventures together.

 

[Minxxy]

Frendoto dont say that... thats the one thing I fear - if I put all this effort in, he becomes an amazing lover, and then we break up and other women get to experience my amazing work!

 

[CrackELF]

dont stress minxy you can teach me next lol :notworthy

 

[Bluegrass9]

No matter what happens Minnxy. You will be one lady who knows how to truly please a man.

Of course he would be crazy to stop enjoying your teaching. I am sure he is willing to have extra homework as well.
:walk:

 

[Dallas]

Anyone heard from Minxxy? Just wondered after 7 years if she finally got her boy trained?

 

[westy]

How did I miss this thread at the time? What a great read, really enjoyable. I do miss minnxy.

 

[Bambi]

Not fair to push someone who's not into that. Just take it easy, vanilla sex is ok too