Comfortable with sex

[Bluegrass9]

I know many have sex but how many are comfortable having sex? No guilt and able to enjoy the only one they love or maybe the blind date or one night stand or foursome.

Is it an age thing? I have been comfortable with my views on sex as from 18. I have to admit I was asking my mother questions about sex when I was only 9.

Yes your turn now dear reader.
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[flash111au]

I'm comfortable with sex. Problem is not the comfort but getting enough sex.

I guess it is OK with supply of sex when in a relationship (assuming each partner has a somewhat matching libido). When one is in one's 50s it seems harder to obtain unless one has plenty of money to pay for it.

Dating site demographics appear to favour the young (up to mid 40s). Beyond that, then there appears to be a belief abroad that one should not be thinking of sex, but heading for a retirement village and wait to die.

 

[creative]

I'm a guy and comfortable with sex .. I probably got comfortable once I knew I could make a woman climax whilst having straight sex ... I sorta guessed I was doing things right from that point onwards. Before that, I was either a little more self centred or just plain ignorant ... but still ... I was comfortable with that!

 

[frendoto]

Comfortable with it? I'd say I need active sex, even if that means masturbation.

I have no sexual guilt or shame at all. I have no strong sexual jealousy now. I'd love to try swinging with my next partner.

I'm not comfortable talking to my family about sex. However, with everyone else, I'm as open as they are, no matter how open they are!

 

[Pleasure Me]

More comfortable with it now than ever. For me I have become more comfortable with my body and sex the older I get.

I now have the confidence and experience to know what I want and how to get it. makes it much easier for hubby to pleasure me.

It wasn't always that way, I grew up never speaking about sex and getting rather uncomfortable if the topic was mentioned.

I think it's all about having confidence in your body and how it works sexually, I guess everyone feels that way at different times in their life, some may never get there unfortunately for them.

 

[LouiseT]

I'm much more comfortable if the other person is comfortable and confident, i think my confidence mirrors whoever im with! The first time i'm with someone i'm deifinately less comfortable than i maybe should be. I get nervous at the first getting naked point but then start to relax. I don't feel guilty or anything like that, i'm just a bit shy to begin with, but i am actally struggle to sleep beside a new someone, though i'm not sure if thats because im uncomfortable or excited!

 

[adam74]

I was painfully shy at first and loosened up quite a bit after I met my wife. Unfortunately, I then went through a stage after we had kids when my libido just dropped through the floor. I am only starting to get better now. Joining this forum has actually been good for me in that regard. It's allowed me to get comfortable with sex and talking about it again.

 

[SubNymphet]

im comfortable with sex... talking about sex... having sex.... thinking about sex, im comfortable with it all

lol

although like many others, i can be a little shy at first getting started, but that is more a body image issue for me... but once i get started theres no stopping me

 

[Sensual ~ Vanessa]

Ditto what Sub said. When I hit 30 my libido hit the roof and hasn't come down so yeah I'd say I'm more than comfortable, I loooooove it!!! :love10:

 

[waxenboy]

Im very comfortable with sex.
Love being naked sleeping naked if it gets too cold i put ugg boots on to get warm.
I would like a little bit more sex but i think ive grown to a stage where i love the company aswell, the sex is a bonus.

One night stands are good but its nice to make your partner feel wonderful that in turn makes me feel good and i enjoy sex more.:love76:

 

[ralfz]

Ditto what adam said..i am also painfully shy and i hope joining this forum will help me make a difference.

 

[Minxxy]

I have known about sex since I could hear
I taught all the other kids at school about sex because their parents had issues with talking about it.
Have been having sex since 14 and am very open minded and comfortable with sex.
I can happily talk to my parents, siblings and friends about sex.
I have even been known to show my mum pics of the guys I am shagging... in compromising positions.

So yes... comfortable all the way

 

[cumifly]

not me
in the family more like you only do it when u married

specially when u grow up with lots of girls around in the family i need to be a good boy

lucky there is internet nowadays where ppl can share anamouys

 

[Louise78]

I couldn't have said it better Pleasure. I, like you, have been more comfortable about sex as I have gotten older and after a failed marriage with the first person I had sex with. I went through a time of engaging in discreet "hook ups" with all types of men. And as much as I did enjoyed it, I really like being in a relationship with just one man.

However, he is not as comfortable as I am. He said he had little sex in his marriage and I know that he has a history of porn, webcam sites, and chat rooms. He enjoys watching and stroking himself while thinking of me with other women or women with other women. I don't mind it but I do enjoy the pleasure of a man licking my pussy and sucking my nipples with a lasting hard erection. Something that he struggles with. We have been together for 10 months and I am feeling deprived.

Any advice?

 

[Arkmeup]

I used to be very comfortable with sex, any where any time but, after not having or being around sex for so long I have lost all confidant's & feel very uncomfortable with sex.

 

[adam74]

I couldn't have said it better Pleasure. I, like you, have been more comfortable about sex as I have gotten older and after a failed marriage with the first person I had sex with. I went through a time of engaging in discreet "hook ups" with all types of men. And as much as I did enjoyed it, I really like being in a relationship with just one man.

However, he is not as comfortable as I am. He said he had little sex in his marriage and I know that he has a history of porn, webcam sites, and chat rooms. He enjoys watching and stroking himself while thinking of me with other women or women with other women. I don't mind it but I do enjoy the pleasure of a man licking my pussy and sucking my nipples with a lasting hard erection. Something that he struggles with. We have been together for 10 months and I am feeling deprived.

Any advice?

Talk to the guy would be my first advice. Ask him what he likes and tell him about your needs. If you guys really care about the needs of each other you'll find a way to meet in the middle I'm sure. If you can't talk openly and frankly to your spouse, who else is there? I'm not trying to lecture and I hope it doesn't come off that way, it's certainly not intended.