Hey sumguy,
You make some good points, to be fair when I watch two girls on porn it doesn't do anything for me either, and I don't walk down the street and look at a chick and get aroused. I can appreciate beauty in the world whether it's male or female, but sexual arousal is different to that.
From my perspective, men overthink the touching another guy thing, I think there is a lot of the whole "I'm not Gay, (not that there's anything wrong with that" thing going on. Even if they say they've got gay friends and they're not homophobic, they still REALLY don't want anyone to think they are gay.
But in an open sexually charged situation, why does intimate contact with another human have to be labelled as gay/bi/straight, why can't it just be sexual. As a guy, do you like getting a blow job? (I know don't laugh, just making a point.) Do you enjoy anal stimulation (a lot of "straight" guys love a finger up their ass, or have used implements when no-one was watching)? Do you enjoy anal sex with a female partner? I mean, this might sound daft, but if you like anal sex with a woman, how different can a guy's ass be. And I have it on fairly good authority that guys know what they like in a blow job, therefore they're fairly good at giving.
Certain male/female anatomy is the same and the idea of allowing yourself to grow as a person by experiencing different things in a non-threatening environment is an amazing opportunity that I am surprised more people don't try. Like I said previously, try something out and if you don't like you don't have to do it again, or you might like the idea of acquiring the taste.
Love
swingingstories
I agree with the general thrust, (no pun intended!), of your argument, but we are not just having sex for mechanical reasons, there is an emotional component involved.
Of course having sex and watching are two different experiences, so shouldn't be compared too closely.
As you say, "..experiencing different things in a non-threatening environment..", is probably the key. I never had the pubescent homosexual experience many men seem to have had, so I have no experience to go on.
Having said that, I'm not a big fan of seeing other mens' faces when they orgasm, (obviously worse in pr0n because they do close-ups), I like womens' faces, their skin, and their shape etc.
It's really a social stigma about guys touching each other. There is a view that mens' sexuality is such, they will stick their dick into anything at the drop of a hat. Of course that is true of some men, but most are just as discerning as women.
Because of this idea, some men would be worried about showering with a gay guy. The reality is of course most gay men wouldn't look twice at your average straight guy, (from what I read not that many engage in anal sex either).
People aren't going to try something "just because", they need to either suspect it will feel good, or have others they trust tell them so. I think it is perfectly natural to be cautions about letting someone poke something in such a sensitive area as their anus. This requires a level of trust.
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It's pretty well ingrained in society that a man's penis is some kind of stabbing weapon, and to be penetrated by this makes someone a victim, or inferior.
Do you know, (depending on which bible you read), Lilith was the first woman, made from the same clay as Adam. Because she refused to lie beneath Adam, (as this was seen as subservient), god made Eve from Adam's rib, so she would be subservient, and Lilith buggered off to live in a cave and kill babies and collect semen from nocturnal emissions. :angel12:
Cheers
but i consider myself straight because i love women im atracted to women i see myself with women (the right one) but can get horny for a blow and go with a guy