Are all women out for number one????

[Lord Spikey]

Here is a question.... or two

Are all women selfish? Are they all out for number one?
Are all women focused on money and having fun and nothing else?

I am beginning to wonder. Now, I know that I cannot tar all women with the same brush, but my experiences and those of a number of other men are that women do sometime take more than they give. They have certain expectations and I am not talking about sexual expectations here; we all have those.

I have, on occasion, found women to be prepared to take advantage of men, whether emotionally, financially or sexually and sometimes all three... at the same time.

A good man and yes, I know that they are as rare as fairies and unicorns, will have no trouble in sharing his fortune with the woman he loves, but if that relationship should end, well its like a tornado hits. They take the car, the house, the pets and the shirt of the man's back.

I'm not saying that the man is not sometimes to blame for the failure of the relationship, but the soft and caring gentle woman soon becomes a witch, particularly after getting advice from "the sisterhood". Men don't seem to do that.

Thoughts? Opinions? Comments?

 

[Thatguy]

I don't think that is gender specific mate...

I think both genders have members that are just out for number one..

 

[Farm Boy 2]

Always back the horse named self-interest, son. It’ll be the only one trying.”


Jack Lang

 

[Raye@Langtrees]

Current Affairs Tue night " Women who Kill " great insight.... Spikey, I'm trying to work out wether you have just come out of a relationship or what? In my experience we all become selfish, & claim what we want from a relationship gone bad.

 

[Lord Spikey]

Current Affairs Tue night " Women who Kill " great insight.... Spikey, I'm trying to work out wether you have just come out of a relationship or what? In my experience we all become selfish, & claim what we want from a relationship gone bad.

Hi Raye

Yes, I have seen to promo for that Current Affairs program. Might be interesting, but I think that is more about women who purposefully seek out men to destroy.

I am talking more about the experience and anecdotal evidence from friends and associates, who have perhaps come out of a relationship to find that their ex partners girlfriends, sisters and other members of the "sisterhood" have given them advice, such as "all men are bastards and you must take him for everything he is worth. Destroy him financially and emotionally. Teach him a lesson", etc. The advice is usually very bad and seems driven by this idea that we are enemies. In the end, it is the lawyers that win, the women that lose and the men who are destroyed.

As an example: I have an associate who, when their marriage ended offered his ex wife a financial settlement. The ex wife took advice from her sister and girlfriends and tried to take significantly more. It went to court and she ended up with less than half of what was originally offered. He ended up paying significantly more in court costs, etc. They both ended up hating each other and suffering depression for a long time. Obviously the court decided that he had been more generous than he needed to be, but the whole incident ended very nastily with plenty of bad feelings to go around.

So my question is "what has been achieved"?

To answer your other query, no I have not just come out of a relationship. I have had a recent experience that opened an old wound; brought back memories and has distressed me to the point of wanting to vent to someone. I just thought I might get some perspective if I put the question out there.

 

[Raye@Langtrees]

Thanks Spikey, enjoyed the read xx. the old adage goes " misery loves company " unfortunately as friends (sisterhood) of the disadvantaged victim, their support and comfort is all that is required , but alas... some are full of advice, which is usually wrong, but they find ways to impress upon said victim, delusional ideas for a better outcome. . By hatching a plan, and plotting for more will lead to misery if the wrong advice is offered.

Just like your associate friends, she got very greedy by listening to bad advice, from the sisterhood and came out a shade of grey , Bullshit is always free, like you said only the Lawyers made the bucks. Didn't mean to open old wounds just trying to get a handle on where you were coming from. But you no what? females can be nasty evil and unforgiving bitches and I'm not embarrassed to say this. Current Affairs " women who kill " very evil should watch...

 

[homer]

If you've ever been in a relationship, big or small, you would've learned by now that it's always the man's fault/s for the failure. Failure to launch, failure meet deadline, failure to book that table at a high class restaurant for the special occasion, failure to take the trash out, failure to do housework, failure to mow the lawn, failure to impress the in-laws....the list goes on.

 

[Lord Spikey]

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If you've ever been in a relationship, big or small, you would've learned by now that it's always the man's fault/s for the failure. Failure to launch, failure meet deadline, failure to book that table at a high class restaurant for the special occasion, failure to take the trash out, failure to do housework, failure to mow the lawn, failure to impress the in-laws....the list goes on.

And on
And on
And on

 

[homer]

Hence sorry is a very useful word.

 

[Happy2]

Hence sorry is a very useful word.

And
You were right and I was wro.. Wron.. WR.. You know what word I'm trying to say But it does not come natural to men

 

[Rochelle]

Relation ships/marriages do have the potential to turn sour simply because "Mr Looking after Number one" meets "Mrs Looking after number one" and I have heard as many stories about female gets ripped off by ex as male gets ripped off by ex.
I think it takes two to tango and there are always two sides to be heard. In such cases people who rip off professionally are the minority. When a break up turns nasty it pays to look in both directions before judgement.

 

[bushseeker]

You could never have said it better homer
Im currently in the wrong for not buying a house for a lady thats little more than a friend.
In my experience the answer is a pksin simple
yes

 

[DDxoxo]

I do look after Number 1
But for that very reason I am not in a relationship ....
BECAUSE THEN I CAN LOOK AFTER NO:1
​

 

[asianguy77]

I think in the society we live in today, unfortunately it is about looking out for number 1. :/ Sad state of affairs..

 

[Lingham]

While self interest is indeed a powerful motivator that affects us all, in my experience the answer to the question posed in the title of this thread is a resounding "no"; and that goes for women and men.

 

[Rochelle]

I think in the society we live in today, unfortunately it is about looking out for number 1. :/ Sad state of affairs..

I agree, asianguy77. It would be a far better world if we would look after each other as well and not only after number one. But I do wonder if it is the society we are living in or if it is just human nature.

 

[Dallas]

I think in the society we live in today, unfortunately it is about looking out for number 1. :/ Sad state of affairs..

I think this is too true and in fact I think it goes a step further in that I don't think many people even like someone else helping. Having a relationship where you can go out of your way to help someone you care about seems to be a thing of the past.

 

[homer]

Admission is submission. Never admit your wong. But keep the apologies cumming. lol
Sorry, I forgot and Sorry, I don't know are the best phrases one can use. Absentmindedness and forgetfulness are two most forgivable excuses. Geez, Homer using big words, woohoo...