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Appreciation from a newbie

Perthian39

Perthian39

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Hi @Mrs Langtrees ,

Just thought I'd post a thankyou to you and the community here and share a different perspective to what I typically read on the value of what you have built here.

I'm five years happily married to a beautiful, kind, wonderful woman (both in our early 40's). Life is great in every way except one. It was 2020 the last time we had sex, and she has very little interest in any form of intimate activity. We are as close as two people can be, but this is just how she is. I have nil desire to leave her and I've been ok handling my own needs, but frustration has built over time. The idea of my sex life being over before I hit 40 was just too much.

I've always had a very high sex drive and have plenty of life experience in that regard, but I've long been curious to know where to find erotic massage services. I was too clueless and intimidated to find the right establishment and didn't want to risk offending staff. Analysis paralysis.

I stumbled on TS maybe a year ago and have been following discussion boards regularly for a while now. I found that just learning where I could go and who I could book for such services was a great relief. Knowing that I now could whenever I was ready to was unexpectedly comforting.

I found myself enjoying the process of compiling a mental shortlist of who I'd like to go and see based on the experiences that others shared here. Pretty, slim, Asian and experienced, but younger than me. Close to home, but not too close.

Just recently, while my wonderful wife was out of town for the weekend, I was reading TS discussions again (shoutout to @Chief in particular) and decided to go ahead and book in my first massage with the anticipation of extras.

Enjoyed a simple 1 hr massage + HJ from a very welcoming, pretty lady on a Saturday afternoon. Returned the next day for 1/2 hr massage + nude HJ and I've been smiling since. A weight has been lifted off my shoulders and I feel like this is an outlet that is both a way to treat myself, and will also help me be a better husband.

I intend to find discrete opportunities to go occasionally, perhaps every few months. I imagine I'll stay with nude HJ.

Anyway, just found myself reflecting this morning that I've not seen many new folks post their thoughts here. I figure some of you might enjoy reading a new perspective, so decided to write this post.

Cheers, and keep up the good work!
 
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DHFH

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Perthian39 said:
Hi @Mrs Langtrees ,

Just thought I'd post a thankyou to you and the community here and share a different perspective to what I typically read on the value of what you have built here.

I'm five years happily married to a beautiful, kind, wonderful woman (both in our early 40's). Life is great in every way except one. It was 2020 the last time we had sex, and she has very little interested in any form of intimate activity. We are as close as two people can be, but this is just how she is. I have nil desire to leave her and I've been ok handling my own needs, but frustration has built over time. The idea of my sex life being over before I hit 40 was just too much.

I've always had a very high sex drive and have plenty of life experience in that regard, but I've long been curious to know where to find erotic massage services. I was too clueless and intimidated to find the right establishment and didn't want to risk offending staff. Analysis paralysis.

I stumbled on TS maybe a year ago and have been following discussion boards regularly for a while now. I found that just learning where I could go and who I could book for such services was a great relief. Knowing that I now could whenever I wanted to was unexpectedly comforting.

I found myself enjoying the process of compiling a mental shortlist of who I'd like to go and see based on the experiences that others shared here. Pretty, Asian and experienced, but younger than me. Close to home, but not too close.

Just recently, while my wonderful wife was out of town for the weekend, I was reading TS discussions again (shoutout to @Chief in particular) and decided to go ahead and book in my first massage with the anticipation of extras.

Enjoyed a simple 1 hr massage + HJ from a very welcoming, pretty lady on a Saturday afternoon. Returned the next day for 1/2 hr massage + nude HJ and I've been smiling since. A weight has been lifted off my shoulders and I feel like this is an outlet that is both a way to treat myself, and will also help me be a better husband.

I intend to find discrete opportunities to go occasionally, perhaps every few months. I imagine I'll stay with nude HJ.

Anyway, just found myself reflecting this morning that I've not seen many new folks post their thoughts here. I figure some of you might enjoy reading a new perspective, so decided to write this post.

Cheers, and keep up the good work!
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Well said and thanks for sharing.
 
mrys

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Thanks for sharing mate. It's so good you have found a win/win for your circumstances.
 
1steelrod

1steelrod

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Mate, 4 years without a root.
I'd be gone after 1 month .
There's no way I'd be a slave to a woman who is not putting out.

I found a wonderful woman two years ago now any time anywhere.
Asian lady 47 . Two children. Now devorced and fantastic.
There's no stopping her in bed or out .
Amazing person and sweet.
My own needs are met and she is willing to climb on top and pleasure herself as much as she wants.

After years of punting I found a straight woman who has never worked in the punting world and is basically a virgin with a body count of 3 and that's including me.
Last husband was a domestic violence abuser and he spent the last 7 years on the couch 🛋️.

You said that you were happy with your miss,s but mate I,d say nope.
Get out and live.

My thoughts 🤔.
 
Perthian39

Perthian39

Bronze Member
1steelrod said:
Mate, 4 years without a root.
I'd be gone after 1 month .
There's no way I'd be a slave to a woman who is not putting out.

I found a wonderful woman two years ago now any time anywhere.
Asian lady 47 . Two children. Now devorced and fantastic.
There's no stopping her in bed or out .
Amazing person and sweet.
My own needs are met and she is willing to climb on top and pleasure herself as much as she wants.

After years of punting I found a straight woman who has never worked in the punting world and is basically a virgin with a body count of 3 and that's including me.
Last husband was a domestic violence abuser and he spent the last 7 years on the couch 🛋️.

You said that you were happy with your miss,s but mate I,d say nope.
Get out and live.

My thoughts 🤔.
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Mate, I absolutely respect your views and for many years I thought the same way.

My ex-wife was insatiable and would be DTF anytime. I couldn't fathom anyone sticking around if they weren't having there needs met. Until I found out how many side fucks she'd been carrying on with. Found her messaging history talking with all of them, over years, laughing with her friends about coming home full of someone else's cum and sleeping with me. Stomach churning.

So now my views have changed. Second time around I've narrowed a wonderful Chinese woman. She's funny, positive, super-smart, solid values, loyal, a brilliant cook, earns good money. She's the best person I know and I reckon I'm bloody lucky. She just doesn't like sex. I'm in for the long haul, and I'm happy.

And (maybe pathetically) her not being sex driven makes me even more confident in her loyalty than I already am.

The thing is, if I really pushed the point, she'd endure sex for me. But her not enjoying it is worse than getting nothing.

After having it both ways, sneaking out for an occasional HJ is worth it to me.
 
1steelrod

1steelrod

Diamond Member
Sadly sneaking out for a HJ is basically cheating. Doing the same thing as your last miss,s was doing.
But I'm not here to judge you.
Nor do I hold it against you.
But if you're miss's found out what would happen.
TROUBLE , ?.
Anyway it's good that you are getting it off your chest and emptying your ball sack. Nothing worse than the dreaded DSB,s .
ie Dreaded Seamen Build up.
At the end of the day you are one of us. A man and we will listen and read your stories and give you any advice or information you need.
Ok Brother punter.
 
johnmatilda

johnmatilda

Legend Member
1steelrod said:
Sadly sneaking out for a HJ is basically cheating. Doing the same thing as your last miss,s was doing.
But I'm not here to judge you.
Nor do I hold it against you.
But if you're miss's found out what would happen.
TROUBLE , ?.
Anyway it's good that you are getting it off your chest and emptying your ball sack. Nothing worse than the dreaded DSB,s .
ie Dreaded Seamen Build up.
At the end of the day you are one of us. A man and we will listen and read your stories and give you any advice or information you need.
Ok Brother punter.
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When I had a partner who was not into sex, I used to rationalise it this way: every woman knows a man has needs and needs sex. In fact, they know since they were girls as they are taught that boys are only after one thing. So if my ex didn't meet my needs (she told me to use my hands and even said, half jokingly, go see a hooker) and she knew I needed sex even after I broached the subject with her, what did she think was going to happen, I go celibate?

My rationale, I believe, still holds true to this day. Like Sandilands said, if a man doesn't empty at home, he is going to do it outside.
 
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