Male escorts are hard to find

[DDxoxo]

No one would disagree with the notion that men and women are equal, but equality is not the same thing as being alike. Whether you like it or not, men and women are different biologically, and this does have an impact on their behaviour. There are many studies that would beg to differ but if you are prepared to be open-minded, look at it practically.
In a world where women’s sexuality and their rights to it is overwhelmingly encouraged, you would expect that if men and women were indeed the same, the marketplace would reflect this.
Do you really need to do a Google search to find out that while there are a plethora of sites advertising services of female and gay escorts, YET you will struggle to find heterosexual male escorts?
There is the reason for this: men and women are not clones of each other when it comes to sexual desire. The reason there are so few male escorts is because there isn’t a big market for them, and certainly not because there aren’t men unwilling to take on the role, or because women don’t have the financial means.
Women are just not built that way......
Or do you have a different opinion?

 

[honestman]

imho - anyone regardless of their gender should and by all means; are rightly granted for sexual services from a provider without stigma amongst friends, relatives, or in this case - the "sisterhood", etc...

For each and every (very few around) article I read about male escorts / W/Ms seems to be glorified, well received and 'ok'ed" by society in general...but if the other way around...boom - double standards. With "Financial" means - I think that as a problem certainly goes both ways....

Deep beyond those everyday classifieds section lies something for all women to enjoy (m4w services). Fact of matter is - they'd need to look hard enough to get what they want rather than just ashley madisons & once every few year/s sexpo's stripper events. Seek, and one shall find.

With PG site for instance - the last few/many years and I find that the # available W/Ms are indeed slowly growing. Years ago used to be only two or three ad/s Australia wide. But now it's somewhere between 6-8.

'Sexual desire" exists the same for one and all genders as a basic need. No doubt. Just coordinated & dictated differently from one person to the next.

 

[DDxoxo]

It goes back to the fact that men and women are in fact different, even though that means they are no less equal.
Most women require a measure of emotional investment in a sexual relationship.
Most men don’t.
So paying for a Working Man isn't always what a women will do when wanting to have sex.
Women rarely cheat on their significant other for purely sexual reasons.
Men can enjoy the occasional liaison without any emotional involvement whatsoever.
What most women would view as a deliberate act of betrayal, is very often simply the need to gratify an itch which is no reflection on the woman in a man’s life, or his commitment to the relationship.

 

[XLNC]

I generally agree with you, DD, but I can't help but wonder if the popularity of the GFE service indicates that many men also do crave something more than just unemotional 'meaningless' sex? Even if it is only make believe when you're paying for it.

 

[Happy2]

I visit LT's on a fairly regular basis . And emotional attachments have never been an issue for me
If I wanted the emotional connection I would try and find me a relationship But I do not want one

I go there I chat and have a few laughs meet some girls who have seen me in there several times but not as a provider of services and we are in that comfortable acquaintances zone
But I also meet one lady there who Is a friend and nearly a "Pimp" finding the right girl for me (Sorry young lady)

As for the GFE , and this is just me , I do enjoy that But that's more because I like the sex to be more than clinical. Its not to pretend I am in love , even if only for an hour


But we are all so different When I read posts by other regulars here and you can tell connection is very important

Probably worded that wrong Hope it didnt come across as utter tripe

 

[purplefixer]

For half the price and twice the involvement a young fit male can play the game and score his win at any bar or nightclub in any city in the country. If a woman goes out willing to settle down just a little bit she can have her pick of any dozen guys during the course of the night in the same circumstance. It's the way the game is played, and it's an accepted double-standard.

That leaves the punters as the less-than-perfect, second stringers. Some of us are old, some of us are unattractive, some of us have poor social skills, some of us are in committed but unfulfilled relationships, some of us are too busy to spend time playing the game... For whatever reason we fall short of the #1 mark, and so we find that necessary connection somewhere else.

In the porn industry they still use 'fluffers', a performer who's job it is to help the male lead get ready to perform his part. Even with chemical aids and fluffers, though, the psychological component of a male porn-star's self-image is vital, or he'll fail to perform to standard. Nobody wants to try and boot up with a floppy drive! And god forbid you do so with a -customer-. A W/L can always go to the bedside table for a friendly dose of spermicidal lubricant, and let her intellectual decision to help a punter out in his hour of need override a blase' disregard of his actual level of attraction.

When you're making your living off selling your attraction and intimacy to someone, you can always hope for Adrian Paul. Sadly, you're often going to get Pauly Shore. Can you afford not to perform?

Fundamentally men and women are radically different. They way they approach problems, the way they interact with social groups, and even the way they deal with stress are miles apart. That's why when you find a woman who loves everything you love, you marry her, even if there's no sex to be had! I don't think anyone really argues that men and women are 'the same'. We all have basic human similarities, (and again I can quote Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs here) but the argument has been a fundamental social equality, not ever an argument that men are indistinguishable from women.

 

[Tania Admin]

Years ago I befriended a Male SW (Let's call him Robert) who catered both to MM and MF. I agree it is much easier for a lady to find sex if she is out looking for that but from my own personal experiences I can say that I had many a man become attached when all I wanted was NSA sex. Robert told me that the women he did see as a MF SW were women who were quite wealthy and had high libido's but didn't want the attachment of a relationship. Robert's calls for MF were far and few between and he would not have made a living if he relied only on a MF market.

 

[XLNC]

So we're all different, even within our respective teams.

 

[Dallas]

It goes back to the fact that men and women are in fact different, even though that means they are no less equal.
Most women require a measure of emotional investment in a sexual relationship.
Most men don’t.
So paying for a Working Man isn't always what a women will do when wanting to have sex.
Women rarely cheat on their significant other for purely sexual reasons.
Men can enjoy the occasional liaison without any emotional involvement whatsoever.
What most women would view as a deliberate act of betrayal, is very often simply the need to gratify an itch which is no reflection on the woman in a man’s life, or his commitment to the relationship.

I sometimes wish I was wired this way, it would make life easier, but I think my brain is more like a woman's in this respect.

 

[Happy2]

I sometimes wish I was wired this way, it would make life easier, but I think my brain is more like a woman's in this respect.

So , can you read a map Dallas ?

 

[Dallas]

Years ago I befriended a Male SW (Let's call him Robert) who catered both to MM and MF. I agree it is much easier for a lady to find sex if she is out looking for that but from my own personal experiences I can say that I had many a man become attached when all I wanted was NSA sex. Robert told me that the women he did see as a MF SW were women who were quite wealthy and had high libido's but didn't want the attachment of a relationship. Robert's calls for MF were far and few between and he would not have made a living if he relied only on a MF market.

I would agree with this. Have you noticed in work places and socially etc women hug each other but guys don't hug each other and women especially don't hug guys, because most guys would see more in that than there is.

 

[MrBig]

99% of women can get themselves a bed partner just like that *snapping fingers* - so why should she have to pay - can the same be said for men. No. Dating sites are free for women, men pay, women cross off their list many of the undesirable men, some men get crossed off every list. The alpha male is predominant in the animal kingdom and the further down the list the less likely to find a mate. I'm really just waffling on.

 

[XLNC]

Come now, MrLittle, are you a man or a mouse?

 

[MrBig]

Come now, MrLittle, are you a man or a mouse?

Congrat!. How long have you had to wait for the opportunity to say that.

 

[XLNC]

Congrat!. How long have you had to wait for the opportunity to say that.

Too long. I didn't want to miss a half chance like this, in case you changed your avatar again. Though you don't seem quite as fickle on that front as Polkam.

 

[Happy2]

Too long. I didn't want to miss a half chance like this, in case you changed your avatar again. Though you don't seem quite as fickle on that front as Polkam.

Now now Your XLNC Our friend Mr Little only changed his avatar after YOU derided his previous one's
Or should that be , belittled?

 

[delta.starr]

I generally agree with you, DD, but I can't help but wonder if the popularity of the GFE service indicates that many men also do crave something more than just unemotional 'meaningless' sex? Even if it is only make believe when you're paying for it.

I believe also like XLNC quite a few men do like the GFE... as I provide this particular service,
I find the guests that come back to see me are the ones who love my very affectionate servcie...
So infact, my regular guests are the men that love affection and definately intimacy
- not the "wham bang thank you mam" types..​

 

[delta.starr]

purplefixer said :
That leaves the punters as the less-than-perfect, second stringers. Some of us are old, some of us are unattractive, some of us have poor social skills, some of us are in committed but unfulfilled relationships, some of us are too busy to spend time playing the game... For whatever reason we fall short of the #1 mark, and so we find that necessary connection somewhere else.

Dear Purplefixer
Are you saying we working ladies always get the left overs drudge & scourge of the earth?
I BEG TO DIFFER..
I have had some of really good looking, charming, amiable gentlemen
guests come through my door... though some may have been old .....
others a wee bit shy (I ease their shyness)...
and a few less than picture prefect - but they normally have a heart of gold
(so you see their inner beauty!​

"and so we find that necessary connection somewhere else....."

Yes I give them that connection for sure!
​

 

[Phoebe]

Male escorts have to offer something a little different than what said woman can find without payment, and some women know they can get the fireman look or the buff dude with the 6 pack stomach and 12 inch biceps etc etc without too much effort, she knows she can walk into a bar and take her pick too, so when a woman books a male escort she is looking for something different especially women of power, or women that have a bit of coin behind them, older women look for something different in a male escort than just kit off and lets party. she wants to be listened to , to be held, to be caressed, some women have not been with a man for many years due to bad marriages, then messy divorces and looking after kids which means a woman can not get out as often as men can, so for women this experience is totally different than why men visit escorts, Women sometimes phone a male escort after looking at a very plain image of a man and find they click on something over the phone and she books him because of that, and could have a date a fine dinning place so romance for her, women are very emotional beings and have to feel comfortable in this kind of setting before they can even remove a blouse let alone get naked in front of a man again, so that could take a few bookings at a cafe, then over a meal then hotel room etc etc, so 1st base 2nd base etc etc... Women's brains don't have a super highway from it to the genital regions like men do, some women love intellectual stimulation too... and at the end of the day in the game of flesh women have the upper hand in all ways...

 

[XLNC]

Now now Your XLNC Our friend Mr Little only changed his avatar after YOU derided his previous one's
Or should that be , belittled?

Did I? Or was that Polkam, our resident chameleon? I don't recall. It's so hard to keep track of one's targets of derision these days.

 

[MrBig]

Did I? Or was that Polkam, our resident chameleon? I don't recall. It's so hard to keep track of one's targets of derision these days.

I believe that some mistook my magnifying glass for a lamp.
I clearly had not taken into consideration the effect aging had on some members' eyesight - not that I would want to rat out any one in particular - hence opted for change to this current one.
Somehow it has made me a BIGGER target of derision.

 

[purplefixer]

Dear Purplefixer
Are you saying we working ladies always get the left overs drudge & scourge of the earth?
I BEG TO DIFFER..
I have had some of really good looking, charming, amiable gentlemen
guests come through my door... though some may have been old .....
others a wee bit shy (I ease their shyness)...
and a few less than picture prefect - but they normally have a heart of gold
(so you see their inner beauty!​

"and so we find that necessary connection somewhere else....."

Yes I give them that connection for sure!
​

As I said, some are just busy. I'd posit that those who come in looking for the GFE are one of the categories above, but unless you can get your gentlemen callers to fill out survey cards...

That said, I can speak only from my own experience, and that's going to be pretty much far less than any WL! Even including all my time on the massage table, I'm probably looking at maybe 40hrs with contact in the industry. You've had some stunners, okay, but what about your majorities? Even by your estimate, what are you looking at by break down?

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[Rod Steele]

There are many reasons you might wish to engage the services of an escort:
For simple companionship, to have someone to listen and talk to.
To have someone to accompany you to social functions.
To feel like you're desired, with someone paying attention to you and you alone.
When dating is not a realistic option, due to career, time or other constraints.
To explore a desire or fantasy that you may be unable to fulfil otherwise, for any number of reasons.
It may be as simple a reason as you enjoy sex and are liberated enough to enjoy it any way you choose.
You might have an upcoming birthday or other party to attend where a topless waiter or stripper just won't cut it.

Its completely different for a lady wanting an experience, its all about the journey
I think the biggest fear is ridicule from friends and work colleges
Instead it should be about the experience and needs and wants of that person
A man who knows how to treat a lady in public is completely different to someone wanting to please her in the bedroom as the journey starts on the phone when they first engage you.

Its about finding the right male escort.

Rod Steele

 

[Dallas]

My view is a bit simpler. If someone tried to pay me, I'd sabotage the timer, lie about how much time was left, offer her discounts to stay longer, tell her to pay me later, pay her cab fare to the hotel and back, hire the best hotel, buy her dinner, pay her kids school fees, rent her a holiday home, mow her lawns, paint the spare room, and at the end of the booking give her the money back and say, keep it for the next booking. That's probably why there's not many male Escorts. We'd all go broke even if we got the opportunity.

 

[Black Wolf]

I think the real issue here is that men & women are different in their sexual & emotional needs. Mostly because of hormones, personal priorities & social conditioning. It's not that there is not a demand for hetero male escorts but rather a lack of opportunity to aquire discreetly as there is for men. People often forget that "escort" does not automatically mean sexual services as with a brothel worker. Brothels might work for females if they were totally pissed or all their guards & concerns are down. Not really giving a fuck about anything or what people might think. If a woman could easily ring up an escort agency that could send out an available MF escort, I'm sure that it would catch on a lot faster as it is overseas.

 

[Phoebe]

My view is a bit simpler. If someone tried to pay me, I'd sabotage the timer, lie about how much time was left, offer her discounts to stay longer, tell her to pay me later, pay her cab fare to the hotel and back, hire the best hotel, buy her dinner, pay her kids school fees, rent her a holiday home, mow her lawns, paint the spare room, and at the end of the booking give her the money back and say, keep it for the next booking. That's probably why there's not many male Escorts. We'd all go broke even if we got the opportunity.

Not once did you ever say, "Listen to her" caress her, make her feel special, get up make her a cup of tea the way she likes it, sit with her and just let her open up about her needs, her desires, and wishes after all this is her time, not yours, what you have explained is what a good husband should be doing, and if he was doing that, then maybe she wouldn't be seeking the services of a male escort, ask her what she would love to do after all women do what men want and never ask much in return, how many women do you see sitting bored to death in sports bars, at motor sports events, they go there because he wants that, how many men do you see in return say at High Tea places where by women go for Tea and scones afternoons, or including a glass of Champagne? or even wanting to go watch a chick flick , to have her say she wants a dancing partner after all women love to dance, men normally dont, and I mean dancing on a dance floor not in a bed...etc etc, Women sacrifice everything for men and kids, and end up with nothing more to give in a very short time period, but men dont, men want the boats, Jet-skis, 4 wheel drive cars etc etc, but all women as for is to be listened to , caressed loved for not much in return, So when a woman books a male escort she wants to escape all that and have "Me time" Her time, not a mans time, All what you said really not once did you mention of of asking her about what she actually wants?

Men drag women from car dealer to dealer, etc etc, but as soon as she says I want to go shopping for a new dress and heels for the engagement party coming up he says enjoy, I will sit back here and watch the Eagles game, hell she wants her man to go with her, after all you see her naked in change rooms and its fun guys, then she ends up going with a Girl friend, or he goes and sits down on a lounge out the front of the store with his mobile in his hand, which leads me to this a couple I know never have Iphones, Ipads or any thing else like that in the bedroom, they have an old style clock radio alarm clock only they both say, beds are for: Sleeping and Shagging and well thats what they do in the bedroom they have a great sex life...


Really how hard or difficult is it to ask a woman these questions or simply to listen to her, to do something she wants rather then it always be mans pursuits, after all you may learn something new about the woman in your life, you may actually may love that? and think night out with the boys or doing this with my wife, I know what I would choose.

 

[Happy2]

Not once did you ever say, "Listen to her" caress her, make her feel special, get up make her a cup of tea the way she likes it, sit with her and just let her open up about her needs, her desires, and wishes after all this is her time, not yours, what you have explained is what a good husband should be doing, and if he was doing that, then maybe she wouldn't be seeking the services of a male escort, ask her what she would love to do after all women do what men want and never ask much in return, how many women do you see sitting bored to death in sports bars, at motor sports events, they go there because he wants that, how many men do you see in return say at High Tea places where by women go for Tea and scones afternoons, or including a glass of Champagne? or even wanting to go watch a chick flick , to have her say she wants a dancing partner after all women love to dance, men normally dont, and I mean dancing on a dance floor not in a bed...etc etc, Women sacrifice everything for men and kids, and end up with nothing more to give in a very short time period, but men dont, men want the boats, Jet-skis, 4 wheel drive cars etc etc, but all women as for is to be listened to , caressed loved for not much in return, So when a woman books a male escort she wants to escape all that and have "Me time" Her time, not a mans time, All what you said really not once did you mention of of asking her about what she actually wants?

Really how hard or difficult is it to ask a woman these questions or simply to listen to her, to do something she wants rather then it always be mans pursuits, after all you may learn something new about the woman in your life, you may actually may love that? and think night out with the boys or doing this with my wife, I know what I would choose.

I'm sure your essay made perfect sense Phoebe But being a bloke I didn't have the patience to read it all

But yes I agree with you actually (What's the world coming to eh?)

 

[Phoebe]

I removed this...

 

[Dallas]

Not once did you ever say, "Listen to her" caress her, make her feel special, get up make her a cup of tea the way she likes it, sit with her and just let her open up about her needs, her desires, and wishes after all this is her time, not yours, what you have explained is what a good husband should be doing, and if he was doing that, then maybe she wouldn't be seeking the services of a male escort, ask her what she would love to do after all women do what men want and never ask much in return, how many women do you see sitting bored to death in sports bars, at motor sports events, they go there because he wants that, how many men do you see in return say at High Tea places where by women go for Tea and scones afternoons, or including a glass of Champagne? or even wanting to go watch a chick flick , to have her say she wants a dancing partner after all women love to dance, men normally dont, and I mean dancing on a dance floor not in a bed...etc etc, Women sacrifice everything for men and kids, and end up with nothing more to give in a very short time period, but men dont, men want the boats, Jet-skis, 4 wheel drive cars etc etc, but all women as for is to be listened to , caressed loved for not much in return, So when a woman books a male escort she wants to escape all that and have "Me time" Her time, not a mans time, All what you said really not once did you mention of of asking her about what she actually wants?

Men drag women from car dealer to dealer, etc etc, but as soon as she says I want to go shopping for a new dress and heels for the engagement party coming up he says enjoy, I will sit back here and watch the Eagles game, hell she wants her man to go with her, after all you see her naked in change rooms and its fun guys, then she ends up going with a Girl friend, or he goes and sits down on a lounge out the front of the store with his mobile in his hand, which leads me to this a couple I know never have Iphones, Ipads or any thing else like that in the bedroom, they have an old style clock radio alarm clock only they both say, beds are for: Sleeping and Shagging and well thats what they do in the bedroom they have a great sex life...


Really how hard or difficult is it to ask a woman these questions or simply to listen to her, to do something she wants rather then it always be mans pursuits, after all you may learn something new about the woman in your life, you may actually may love that? and think night out with the boys or doing this with my wife, I know what I would choose.

What makes you think I didn't?? Seems you assume a lot and read into things that aren't there.

 

[Phoebe]

What makes you think I didn't?? Seems you assume a lot and read into things that aren't there.

Oh sorry...