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Swinging is about stepping outside of the typical parameters of a standard relationship and into the thrilling realm of the uncharted. Many couples who are thinking about or already practising the lifestyle find its potential to improve the quality of a relationship and stimulate the study of one's self, sexuality, intimacy, and connection to be enticing. The ability to choose your own rules is frequently unsettling, and the novelty of swinging might make you feel anxious. You are going through a huge transformation along with the relationship that you value so much. Wherever you are in your swinging adventure, be aware that apprehensive feelings are normal.How to Manage (And Understand) Your Nervous Feelings
Different tactics may be more or less effective for you depending on how strong or frequent your sentiments are. We are all special and different. Try out the approaches that make the most sense for your specific swinging situation as there is no one strategy that works in all circumstances.
1: More Information About Swinging - Uncertainty can make you feel anxious. Even while it might sound thrilling to be taken by surprise and not know what to expect, learning more about swinging can be comforting. In our Swing & Tell section, swingers who like the lifestyle can share their stories, and you can read our educational pieces to learn more about the difficulties you could endure as a pair. The more information you have, the easier it will be to calm your anxious sensations. Being ready might give you the confidence to feel more at ease.
2: Focus On What Feels Good As An Anchor - No need to put yourself in an uncomfortable situation. Consider the comfort level at which you can feel relaxed. Let free of external pressures to behave or speak a certain way. Use the swinging pace that is most comfortable for you. You shouldn't speed through this event. Permit yourself to resist accelerating to keep up with others. Instead, take your time and enjoy the swinging adventure. Depending on how you feel, take things one step at a time. Think about what makes you feel wonderful. Or you could ask, "What would make me feel more at ease right now?"
3: Get in Touch With Your Partner - A connection with our spouse will frequently assist in calming the inner voice that is frightened, unhappy, or anxious on an emotional, spiritual, or bodily level. Discuss your feelings with your partner and let them know how they can support you. Strong and honest communication with your life partner is vital.
4: Deal with the issues in your relationships - Swinging won't mend a shattered relationship. Both parties must feel secure in their relationship before committing to the lifestyle. Discuss your concerns with your spouse before swinging if you are concerned about how it may impact your confidence in one another or your ability to communicate, be intimate, or feel affection for one another. We strongly advise you to temporarily stop swinging if you have already started doing it and are feeling anxious so that you can concentrate on your own relationship and support. It's acceptable to want reassurance that the partnership will endure and improve despite this upsetting event. Find out your partner's thoughts on the difficulties and dangers of swinging. Keep in mind that swinging is just a perk to your fantastic relationship. Always put your relationship first if it ever falters for any reason rather than the extra experience of swinging.
5: Study Breathing Methods - Our breathing normally becomes shallow when we are anxious, which causes our heart rate to increase since we are taking in less oxygen. This makes us feel even more worried, unfortunately. Try to intentionally focus on it rather than letting it continue. Remember to breathe deeply. You can download a variety of applications to your phone to assist you in practising relaxing breathing techniques. Movement-based meditation techniques (like yoga or running) can actually aid in releasing physical tension that can accumulate as a result of anxious thoughts.
6: Visualize the Situation - Try to picture yourself in a position with your partner and other swingers while closing your eyes, and taking a deep breath. Imagine yourself in the situation, describing where you are, what you are doing, where your partner is, how you communicate, and the sensations, sounds, and odours you experienced. Visualization can aid in mental preparation and provide insight into some of the fears that underlie our nervousness. Try viewing a few episodes of Playboy Swing TV or swinger movies if you are having problems picturing a swinger experience because you have never done it before.
7: Consider the Motives Behind Thinking About Swinging - Consider the reasons you could say "no" to swinging before you say "yes." We may experience nervousness as a mental alert to keep us from engaging in anything risky or unfamiliar. If you believe that swinging is in line with your wants and desires, it can be a beautiful experience. We can tackle the internal tensions and anxious sensations they cause by expressing our doubts about swinging and understanding why they occur.
8: Be compassionate and kind to yourself - Your partnership is venturing into uncharted waters. Anxiety is a natural side effect of change. It's acceptable and entirely normal to feel this way. Don't be too hard on yourself. Instead, make an effort to use these emotions as inspiration to ponder and discover more about your relationship and yourself. Utilize them as insightful input from your body and mind to enhance your swinging experience.
It's the journey, not the destination, always keep this in mind. Do not consider your anxiety as a swinging-related adverse effect. Instead, consider them as opportunities for connection, self-discovery, and receiving support from others as you go through this journey. Be kind and understanding to yourself as you go through this learning process.